Is it rude to put this on your RSVP cards?

I wish I would have done it, but hopefully we don't have a problem. I've seen it on other response cards, I don't think it's rude.

I don't think it's rude. I believe my cousins RSVP cards had something similar on them. It also prevents people from bringing their entire family if you intend on an adult only reception.

I did it. It helps establish boundaries.

Not rude at all. I think its smart!

It's not rude. I would go further; I would specify on each RSVP exactly who is invited. I know it's time consuming, but with all the RSVP nonsense that people report here, I think it is necessary.

I did it! No one has said anything. Like EricaTx said, it helps establish boundaries, especially since we don't have kids at the wedding.

It is not rude at all, especially if you are sticking to a budget and set on inviting a certain amount of people. My wedding planner told me this will be the best way to prevent people from unintentionally bringing someone, some people even right out the names of the exact guests they are inviting.

For instance if you invite a couple and one person cannot attent, one significant other should not substitute their plus one with a random person

It's not rude. I put that on my rsvp card.

It's not rude.

The only thing FH doesn't like is if for example, since we are giving all singles plus one, if they don't have a plus one, they wouldn't tell us just one seat and we'd end up paying for it anyway.

I did this! It helped out a lot! There was no questions about it! My only advice would be to label your RSVP card with the name of the person you are sending it to. I received multiple cards, some attending, some not, that they did not fill out the M___________________, and I had no idea whose card it was.

I don't think it is rude, but I also didn't do it. I just felt like it was better to specify the names of each person invited instead of listing the number of seats because I felt like putting the names down felt more personal but with number of seats, it can be taken as we don't care who in your family comes, you have 2 seats to fill as you wish.

I had a similar statement on my initial response card. My planner reviewed it and gave the following feedback:

Also proper etiquette is to not say “___ seats have been reserved in your honor.” Your guests should know who is invited by the names listed on the invitation.

Notice how I said proper, not necessarily followed nowadays. Current trends are moving toward this wording, so you use whatever you are most comfortable with. As your wedding planner, my job is to inform you on proper etiquette, and then you can decide for yourself. :-) Younger folks won’t care or notice, but some of your older generation guests might give you the stink eye.

I ended up removing it from my response card, but under the accept/decline line added a line for number attending. *hopefully* that will indicate if people are getting crazy with the invite.

I don't think it is rude, we did it.

I did it. It helped because I gave everyone a plus one and I didn't want to write and guest on the envelope.

I definitely don't think it's rude, as I will be doing it too. I am taking it a step further and also filling out the name section so that they know for sure who is being invited.

Not rude at all.

I'd even go further and on the envelope say who you are specially inviting. That way, if someone's significant other can't come, they don't bring along their friend.

I think it's 100% necessary. We did it and I'm glad we did.

I think it's 100% necessary. We did it and I'm glad we did.

Not rude at all! Like Celia said, it would even be better to specify who is being invited.

I still remember that one post from someone where a guest crossed out the number they wrote in how many seats had been reversed for them and they wrote in a higher number. NOW THAT'S RUDE!

In my opinion which is apparently an extremely small minority, I think it's rude because it presumes that the responder is going to add extra guests. My "solution" was to address each of the RSVP cards to the recipients personally.