Is it rude to just invite a single person and no guest?

Not rude at all. Just make sure there's room in your budget in case they start dating someone before invitations go out.

I'm only giving single people a +1 if they do not know anyone else at the wedding.

Absolutely not. Single people don't need to bring a date; however, I do think that single members of the wedding party should get a plus one.

No, but if they starting dating someone you have to be prepared to accommodate. FH and I have about 2 dozen single friends and relatives in our guest list, and I'm terrified that all of them will end up in relationships by next March... Which is one of the reasons I'm not doing STD. I can't afford to be surprised by a dozen new names on the guest list and still obligated to invite every one of them.

Nope. It's fine.

And A.Magill brings up another great reason not to do STD's, (which practically no one needs....)

But like CMC, I do think that your BP should have the option to bring a guest.

If they're truly single it's fine. I think it's always nice to extend the courtesy though if you are able!

Unless they're in your BP. They should get a +1

Nope, I dont think thats rude at all. We invited friends that arent single and didnt give them a plus one. We told everyone we wanted to keep it small, so we arent stressing about their feelings. Theyre our friends, so they get it.

We did give a plus one to friends that are married, but not to dating couples, unless we were already friends with their SO.

Don't listen to Mary. It's rude to invite people in relationships without their SOs. I would be pissed if I got an invite and couldn't bring FH. If you're having a truly small wedding, don't invite people whose SO you know and care so little about to try to split them up (as a social unit) ETA: SOs are NOT plus ones

I think it is. I personally wouldn't ?want to go to a wedding alone

I'm giving all single people +1s. Because honestly, being a single person at a wedding (or any event where you have to socialize) is the worst.

It's totally fine to not give +1s to someone without an SO, but I know for a fact I'd be refusing the invite if I were still single.

Thank you all! I feel much better now. No guilt.

Depends on your definition of single. If they're truly, truly single (as in not dating anyone at all), then it's okay not to give them a plus one. But they're dating someone, even if it's only been 2 weeks, you need to invite the significant other.

The other thing is, even if they're not dating anyone now, if they are dating someone by the time invites go out, you need to invite the significant other, so you need to save up for potential significant others regardless. If by the time invites go out, they're still not dating someone, then you can use the money you saved for other things.

I also agree with others that attending a wedding solo sucks, especially if they are traveling. We gave every guest not in a relationship a plus one for this reason and they were free to bring whoever they wanted (obviously those in a relationship were invited by name). In your case, if you don't want to provide plus ones, at least offer it to your bridal party and anyone traveling to your wedding.

And don't listen to Mary. She's oblivious to etiquette.

It's not rude but it's a nice offer if you can swing it.

Yes. Would you want to attend an event by yourself? Especially if it included traveling?

Yes, it is rude. Let them bring a date, single or not.

I think it's totally fine to not give plus ones if they're truly single. We only did it if they wouldn't know anybody or if they would be traveling a long way on their own otherwise.

What's the situation for someone who was in a relationship, got a STD addressed to her and her SO, but then they broke up?

This is my cousin. She's like 35 and had never been in a relationship up until this guy. They were together for 2 or so years and when I sent my STD's in October. They recently broke up, however, and my invites are going out soon (July 1st).

We over-invited, so it would be great to just invite her, but is she entitled to get a plus one since she had her SO invited? Obviously this is still if she's single by the time invites go out.

We invited all SOs, even ones we don't know. We offered plus ones to the BP. That's it.

We're inviting all significant others, but plus ones are on a case by case basis. I don't plan on giving my single cousins plus ones when they'll know tons of people at the wedding already, for example, but some friends who are travelling and likely won't know a lot of people are being extended plus ones. Also we're giving the bridal party plus ones, although I don't know how many of them will actually bring someone.