Is it rude to have a wedding 1 yr. after civil ceremony?

I don't see anything wrong with it at all!

We're having one 2 years after. I say do what you want. Not what people want or think you should do.

No but maybe call it a renewal ceremony.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that! I think it would be great to be able to include everyone now.

I'm with Susan though, maybe call it something other than a wedding. Maybe just a reception?

You don't need to justify anything. You did what was right by you and your DH. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. My DH and I eloped without anyone there and now 5 years later were planning our vow renewal. And I think you can call it whatever you want. I know that a lot of religious people don't recognize the civil ceremony as the important one as its just to make everything legal so why not call it a wedding if that's what it truly is for you and your DH. However, there are other names if you prefer like the other ladies have suggested such as calling it a vow renewal, celebration of marriage, reception-and thats all I can think of right now. I just want to emphasize that you can CALL IT WHATEVER YOU WANT.

Not at all! It's like you were handfasted and now you're doing the church thing.

Not at all! It's like you were handfasted and now you're doing the church thing.

Not at all! It's like you were habdfasted for a year and a day. Now you're solemnising the marriage.

You are a strong, independent woman! What you and your husband choose to do with your marriage celebrations is up to you! You are not being greedy. Your reasons for having, what you called a "civil ceremony", are completely justified, no matter what anyone else says.

And don't feel bullied into calling it a vow renewal either! You deserve to have the full bridal experience just like everyone else. Happy planning!

Heather S. said it perfectly. Everyone deserves a full bridal experience. Do what you want and what makes you and your DH happy.

I actually like your idea here, I've almost been thinking to suggest such to my fiancé due to our personal situation. I'd call it a wedding ceremony, because really, it is what it is.

I'm in the same boat as you because by the time my wedding date comes next yr, my husband & I will be married 6yrs. Things happen in life & sometimes formal weddings have to be put off for a while, as long as you're already happily married that's all that matters. I also agree with the lady above, every married woman deserves the actual bride experience.

You are already married, you had a wedding. You can have a vow renewal or a marriage celebration but you have had a wedding and are already married. Once you sign a marriage license and it is registered, you are married. Congratulations!

Nothing wrong with that at all! Yes? legally you're married signing papers, but wanting to have a spiritual ceremony with friends and family present can really solidify your commitment to each other.

I think it's fine but I'd call it a renewal ceremony since you're already married. You can still treat it just the same as the wedding you've always wanted.

You do whatever you want and call it whatever you want. We do tons of this every year; either the civil part, the celebration part or both. Congratulations!

celia

I'm having a hard time understanding why people are so adamant on it being called a vow renewal. Like I said on the other thread, a marriage and a wedding are two separate things. So what if you have already had the legal part? You want to have a special day that includes everyone coming together and celebrating you and your husband. You deserve that! You also deserve to call it what you want. Weddings have evolved so much over the years. With everyone altering traditions to fit their own needs/preferences, I find hard to believe that this one detail (of you being married) is the only tradition that needs to stay a "tradition".

I would just call it a marriage blessing with a reception to follow like you did.

Heather, it's the idea that you're being completely honest with the guests. This is the issue that makes TK posters go crazy over this topic. OP, are your guests aware of the situation?

People who are adamant about this always come off a little smug to me; "we did it this way and you should too". Well not everyone can do it the way everyone else does. Some people need military benefits, health care, adoptions, all kinds of things that strangers on the internet have no right to judge. In NJ, there is a three day waiting period which wrecks havoc with many of my clients.

Do what you want, call it whatever you want and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise. Your guests don't give a crap about when the license was signed, nor (based on my observation of how many people are late for any given ceremony) is the ceremony the most important part for many of them.