Is it rude to discuss wedding planning with friends who are not invited to the wedding?

I personally wouldn't discuss it unless they directly ask how wedding planning is going.

I don’t think it’s rude at all, especially if they are the ones bringing it up and know they aren’t invited.

No its not rude in my opinion. I have soooo many people asking about wedding details and my experience even though they know they won't be invited.

I think if they ask about it you can share, but I don't think you should just openly discuss it with them.

They probably know you're planning to get married, so they might ask how it's going. If they bring it up, it's definitely okay you talk about it. If they don't bring it up, it's better not to unless you talk to them about personal stuff all the time anyway. In that case, you can talk about it casually once in a while, but make sure you mention the fact that it's going to be very small so they're not surprised when they're not invited.

I wouldn't bring it up. I would only talk to them about it if they specifically ask otherwise they might feel left out when they learn they aren't invited.

I would steer clear of it. You might offend them, you might not, better not to risk it.

I agree with the others that it's fine to answer their questions (if you want to) but I wouldn't bring it up out of the blue.

It also depends on your relationship with your coworkers of course, but I have worked with people who constantly talked about the minutia of their weddings and it gets really annoying. Not because I was offended to not be invited, but just because it can be a pretty boring topic for acquaintances to go on and on about unsolicited. At work, I'd rather work.

I don’t think so! My coworkers weren’t all invited but they’d ask cause they’d be excited about it for me

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I totally agree with this!

Not really, but I wouldn't openly talk about it with them if they aren't invited.

I would not discuss it with tham unless they directly asked about it. I know you are excited, but keep the conversations to the people who are invited.

My opinion I wouldn't consider it rude. I wouldn't talk about it all the time to them but I think mentioning stuff here and there is fine. Plus they can give you tips and maybe they know people who have wedding business that are pretty reasonably priced that they can refer to you. I talk about my wedding to my work friends who aren't invited and I've gotten some helpful tips from them. Like we are on a tight budget as well and I found this cheap but amazing dj/saxophone player and I was discussing it with one of my work friends on if I should hire him and this person told me hire him now because he is really amazing and you won't be disappointed, the work friend happened to have him as well at his wedding.

I agree with the consensus that it's fine to answer questions, but it's probably best not to bring it up on your own.

Agree with the above. A lot of my co-workers were getting married/planning weddings while I was, and none of us were invited to the other's wedding, but we talked about it all the time! For co-workers not in the bride-to-be group, I'd only talk about it when asked.

Traditionally, yes, it is considered rude. Only you know your circle, though, and how they might handle it.

If they ask, feel free to answer. But don't bring it up out of the blue.