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Savvy May 2021

Is it rude to change my engagement ring setting?!

Amber, on June 2, 2022 at 6:36 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 6

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Hi ladies,

I’ve been married for just over a year, and it’s been 4 years since we got engaged. My engagement ring is a 1.52 carat emerald cut halo in white gold. It’s a stunning ring and I know my husband took a lot of time to save for it and design.
I’m not a very flashy person and have felt like it’s too big for me pretty much since we got engaged. Although I love it, I feel self conscious wearing it as I feel it’s quite showy. Of course, I’m very grateful he put so much effort into the ring! I’ve also gone off white gold and love yellow gold much more.
I’m wondering if it would be rude to have the diamond re-set in a simple solitaire setting in yellow gold?

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Latest activity by Amber, on June 3, 2022 at 2:09 AM

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Sarah · on June 2, 2022 at 7:40 AM
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I don't think it would be rude, but I do think it's a conversation you should have with your husband. Let him know what you're feeling and that while you appreciate all the effort he put in to choosing the ring, you'd like to have it reset into something that's more your style.
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Cathy · on June 2, 2022 at 8:46 AM
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I changed my wedding & engagement rings after 25 years! I have the same solitaire just a different setting. I kept my original wedding band but I don’t wear it with my new rings. I would talk with hubby & if he is on board, go to the jewelry store to see what appeals to you. Btw, my hubby was 100% on board when he saw my solitaire in the new setting! Good luck!
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Sloane · on June 2, 2022 at 10:34 AM
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I don’t think it’s rude at all. However I would be more inclined to embrace what I have and learn to be comfortable with its brilliance and flash. The important thing is to get the ring you want so you can be truly content with it.
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Paige · on June 2, 2022 at 10:35 AM
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Definitely talk to your husband about it first. I think it's a pretty normal thing since tastes change, you may not have been super involved with picking it out in the beginning, etc., but I'd imagine your husband put a lot of thought into it, so make sure you convey that you still really appreciate all that went into picking it.
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Ginny · on June 2, 2022 at 3:44 PM
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The question is not whether it's rude, but whether your husband's feelings will be hurt if you change the ring. My feeling, since you say he spent a lot of money and time on the design, is that he will be hurt. Only you can know how he will react, but if so, now you must weigh that hurt against your discomfort. This is one of the many decisions you'll be making throughout your marriage -- do I put his needs first or mine? I personally would discuss it with him, and then change the ring with his input.
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Savvy May 2021
Amber · on June 3, 2022 at 2:09 AM
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Thanks ladies.. I do feel very bad as he had it made but I’ve always felt this way. This is an example of a solitaire design in white gold oval (I’d have yellow and use my stone) in comparison to my current ring
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