Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

GoodMOB
April 2018

Is it proper etiquette to wear black to a wedding?

GoodMOB, on April 25, 2018 at 4:29 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 72

So my sil calls me the other day, and says she realized that her only "fancy" dress, that she is planning to wear to the wedding, is an elegant black. And some friend of hers had mentioned that she shouldn't wear black to a wedding. So she asked me. Of course, I said it's totally fine. I joked with...

So my sil calls me the other day, and says she realized that her only "fancy" dress, that she is planning to wear to the wedding, is an elegant black. And some friend of hers had mentioned that she shouldn't wear black to a wedding. So she asked me. Of course, I said it's totally fine. I joked with her that as long as it doesn't mean she is mourning this wedding, and isn't going to stand up and stop the wedding, then it's good.

But, I do know my grandmother, may she rest in peace, would have had a conniption. And as I thought about it, I realized that I wouldn't wear black to a wedding. Am I superstitious? Old-fashioned?

Does anyone else not wear black to weddings? Or am I the last one on earth?

72 Comments

  • I
    Devoted September 2018
    Ivonette ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I went to a wedding not so long ago and 95% of the ladies were wearing black. I had a navy blue dress and two ladies wore red. The bride came to me and made a joke and said its a wedding not a funeral I just starting laughing and asked her did I missed the memo. She respond no i just realize everyone was coming in black 😁
    • Reply
  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
    Amanda ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I am always in black .. my bridesmaids will be in black .. my dress #2 will be black lol .. i see notjing wrong with it i normally wesr black to weddings
    • Reply
  • WagsToKray
    Expert November 2018
    WagsToKray ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I don't think there is anything wrong with it... the only person who had an issue with anyone wearing black to my wedding is my Mom. I personally wear black all the time, so I wouldn't mind it.

    • Reply
  • C
    Dedicated August 2020
    Carolyn ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I cannot see a reason why someone couldn't as long as it was appropriate to the level of dress (elegant - like your situation, more causal, etc).

    • Reply
  • Missy B
    Devoted October 2019
    Missy B ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I have worn black to weddings and I have seen tons of people wearing black to weddings. It is very normal.

    • Reply
  • T
    Super December 2018
    T P ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I think that black and white are choices to be avoided unless specially indicated as a black and white wedding in the invitation.
    • Reply
  • Jables
    Dedicated May 2019
    Jables ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Over worn black to friends' weddings and never thought twice that it wound be an issue! It's totally fine in my book.

    (Photo is at our friend's June wedding in 2016)

    Is it proper etiquette to wear black to a wedding? 1
    • Reply
  • Jables
    Dedicated May 2019
    Jables ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    ^^**I have worn (not over worn)
    • Reply
  • A
    Expert September 2019
    Anna ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    It’s general etiquette not to wear black, but no bad juju if she does! My cousin and my sister in law had their bridesmaids wear black (I was in my SIL). Not sure if it’s different since the bride picked it, but still counts in my book
    • Reply
  • W
    Beginner June 2018
    Wendy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    If it was up to me I would wear black to my wedding but future hubby said that was his only request. I think it's up to how you feel about it
    My mom and I went to a wedding and she strictly asked not to wear black. So its your preference.
    • Reply
  • Emily Plush
    Dedicated May 2019
    Emily Plush ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I wore a cute black romper but dolled it up with red heels and jewelry. So you can definitely wear black and tell her to add some color to it if she wants. Not everyone even wears black to a funeral anymore anyways!
    • Reply
  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    It's totally fine to wear black to a wedding as a guest!! Especially if it's a formal or winter wedding!!

    I'm also originally from NJ though... and we wear black to everything! 😉

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics