Is it okay to un-invite someone a month out?

Typically, if you send someone a Save The Date or invitation, you can't really uninvite them without risking damage to the relationship. Have you already sent an invitation? If so, you could just wait to see what her RSVP is. If she isn't speaking to you, she'll probably end up declining the invite. If she accepts the invite and you have no interest in trying to salvage the friendship, then you could send her a message along the lines of, "Based on everything that's happened between us recently, we think it's best that you don't attend our wedding. We apologize for any inconvenience." If she accepts the invite though, it could be her way of trying to repair the friendship?

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In my eyes, we aren't even friends anymore. I am hoping that she declines the invite because she hasn't told us if she will be there. She has said she was in the past but we went to a mutual friend's wedding Sunday and acted like I don't exist. That is NOT something I want to deal with on my wedding day. We have to turn in final counts in 10 days so I will text her and ask for her rsvp since we haven't gotten an official response.

If she says she will be there, then I will probably sit her down face to face and try to work out issues to at least be amicable.

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If your wedding is in a month and she hasn't RSVPed, I would bet she isn't going. But I think your plan is a good one, but I'd rather let the RSVP date pass and then text her and let her know since she had not confirmed she will not be accommodated [maybe in a nicer way]. Good luck!

I'm confused why she is still even living in the same house as you. My first concern would be having either you and your fiance move out or her. I can't imagine continuing to live with someone that isn't even on speaking terms with you. As for the wedding, I would sit down and talk to her even if it's awkward.

View Quoted Comment It’s our house and she’s renting the finished basement. We signed a lease that ends December 1st. She can end early if she wants but she hasn’t yet. We will be giving her a 60 day notice on 10/1 that we are not renewing her lease

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Yikes! Based on that information, I can't imagine she would want to attend since you will be giving her a 60 day notice prior to the wedding, but I would still ask her if she plans on attending.

View Quoted Comment I think I will. I was going to write up a general message to send to all who haven’t confirmed anyway.

Has your RSVP date passed? Usually if you uninvited someone, that's risking the relationship. Sounds like you don't want the friendship at all now anyway. Does she have mutual friends that she could make you out to be a bad guy here?

Generally you don’t uninvite someone unless they are violent/abusive/racist/criminal. And a save the date must be followed by an invitation unless the wedding is completely called off, not postponed. If you truly don’t have a friendship anymore then don’t send an invitation.