Is it okay to tip vendors after the fact?

I dont tip before hand. but thats just me. i think tips very depending on how professional and friendly and efficient people are during the time of there service. then later send a thank you note with tip.

Considering the upcharge on everything wedding related i would think the tip is already included.

j/k...kinda

tip them when you can. they may have an issue as they're packing up to go but they'll be appreciative a week letter when you send it in the mail. as long as their fee is paid timely i wouldn't worry.

I haven't been a part of many weddings, I just always assumed people tipped the vendors at the end of the night, like handed them an envelope with cash in it as they were leaving. (at least that's what was done at the last wedding I went to)

You can do what ever you want. The only person I tipped was the minister. Then again we made our own flowers, did our own decorating and my DH and his friends played our music all night. All that was left was catering and when we signed the contracts it said tips were included in charge.

You will get LOTS of money at your wedding, instead of sending them cash later I'd just bring your cheque book and post date a fw cheques for like a week from that day.

Remember that you do NOT have to tip your vendors. So, if you decided to send a nice "thank you" afterwards and included a small gratuity, they would be very excited to receive it.

Honestly? I would love to get a thank you note with a tip from a couple AFTER they'd actually had the experience rather than having someone tell them they had to tip before hand, which makes it kind of automatic. I think it's a great idea, and I wish more couples would consider it.

I have to agree with Celia. It is so nice to get an unexpected thank you note after the ceremony. The tip would be an added bonus.

So many times the father of the bride or best man tip you. It would be so great to have the couple do it and know how much they appreciated me being a part of their wedding day.

Thanks everyone!! It's nice to hear vendors takes on this, and I'm glad to know a thank you note after the fact would be appreciated. My dad keeps telling me I need to tip them early on in the night so they'll "take care of me", but really, I hired vendors that are good and I trust to take care of me because that's their JOB, not because I tipped them well before they even did anything. And what if I tipped them and they did a crap job?

Another vendor checking into this discussion. I never expect tips (although I never turn them down either). The best tip any vendor can ever receive is when you refer their services to friends and family. That's why it is very important to send thank you notes and review them on sites such as WW. I have builty great relationships with all the couples I have worked with in the past and that's rewarding enough.