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Is it okay to ask my fil to be here by 9am?

Jessica, on July 31, 2019 at 6:16 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8

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My 12 year old SIL is going to be a junior bridesmaid in my wedding and my BIL is going to be the best man. I had planned to have all the girls get ready together, and I bought BIL's suit for the wedding. So while discussing the wedding FH told FIL that I was hoping they could be at my house to get ready by 9am (the wedding starts at noon) the other girls will all be here the night before and getting ready around 7am, so I set up a later time for her just in case. FIL tells my fiance he's going to get her hair and nails done down by them, the problem is they live 3 hours away from us and every salon I've been to doesn't open until 9 at the Earliest. I feel like by the time she's done getting ready she'll be late and they won't have my BIL's suit since its up here with us. Them coming up here would end up saving them money as well since my MOH and Aunt are trained in beauty and will be doing everyone's hair and make up, nails are supposed getting done the week before. I'm not sure I should put my foot down.

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Caytlyn · on July 31, 2019 at 6:22 PM
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Why does she need to be there by 9 am if she’s not getting ready with you? As long as she’s there for the ceremony or pre-ceremony photos if you’re doing them, I don’t see the problem.
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Hannah · on July 31, 2019 at 6:36 PM
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As long as she's there and ready to go for the photos and ceremony, I don't really see why it matters. We got hair and makeup done at the salon. My niece (the flower girl) wanted her hair done to and my brother dropped her off when everyone else was almost done so that she wasn't hanging around forever with us. Also, it will take your BIL approximately 20 minutes to get in the suit, and that's accounting for tie troubles. Unless your FIL is planning to drop them off 5 minutes before the ceremony, you should be fine.
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Lady · on July 31, 2019 at 6:38 PM
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Just give them a time they HAVE to be there - aka, if you're having pics at 11am, then she needs to be there by 11am. If the ceremony is at noon, she needs to be there by noon. There is no "putting your foot down" about anything. The only think you can do is give people a time that something starts and ask that they are there in time.
You're overreacting
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Jessica · on July 31, 2019 at 6:52 PM
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I was just worried if they would get here on time, since they live so far. I was trying to have her get ready with us and take the before photos, but I guess I'll just back off.
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Kelly · on July 31, 2019 at 6:56 PM
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Can’t they do her nails the day before? 12 year old nail polish chips really quickly, because they have excess oil in there skin.
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Jessica · on July 31, 2019 at 6:59 PM
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They are getting it done after her hair.
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Cher Horowitz · on July 31, 2019 at 11:25 PM
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I agree, definitely don't lose sleep over this! You can give the option "if you want to take getting ready photos, we're doing so at 9 a.m."
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Raquel · on August 1, 2019 at 9:15 AM
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I don’t see how they can possibly be on time if they live 3 hours away, the wedding starts at noon and FIL wants to do her hair and nails the same day. I don’t think you can put your foot down and force them to come early but you can push for her hair and nails to be done the day before so they are on time for the pictures/ceremony.
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