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Sarah
Savvy November 2022

Is it ok to not do a father/daughter and mother/son dance?

Sarah, on June 10, 2021 at 1:31 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 16
I’m close to my dad but we never went to any kind of father daughter dances when I was growing up. We’re both very awkward and my dad isn’t a fan of dancing. Same situation with FH and his mom. Is it ok to not do these dances? We’re already anxious about having all eyes on us, and I’m trying to eliminate any unnecessary stress. Has anyone else been in this situation?😭

16 Comments

Latest activity by Angela, on October 16, 2022 at 10:26 AM
  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    You can definitely skip both of those dances if that's what you want to do. Yes it is a tradition, but its not required!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Many couples skip those and they aren’t missed
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Yes. I’m considering this as well.
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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
    AJ ·
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    Can for sure skip, I don't want to dance with my dad either for similar reasons.

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  • E
    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    You can skip any and all wedding reception traditions you wish.

    No one will miss them.

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    You can skip them for sure. It’s your fat so do what makes you happy!
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  • Samantha
    Savvy September 2022
    Samantha ·
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    Totally normal to skip!! FH and I both have strained relationships with one parent (which just so happens to be the parent we would have to dance with), so we’re most likely skipping those dances altogether. You do you!
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  • anna
    Devoted October 2019
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    We decided to do a combined father/daughter and mother/son dance because my dad and my MIL also don't like dancing and didn't want all the eyes on them individually, and to me it was a good compromise as opposed to cutting it out altogether! I promise no one is judging how "awkward" you might look because it's still a sweet moment. Looking back, I'm glad we did it Smiley smile

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  • Melissa
    Savvy August 2021
    Melissa ·
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    Well what do you want to do??? This is you and FH wedding not anyone else's. Do what's best for you.
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  • Melissa
    Savvy August 2021
    Melissa ·
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    I want to skip my father and daughter dance. I don't have the best relationship with him.
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  • Patty
    Savvy October 2021
    Patty ·
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    We are skipping both as well. Both of my parents have passed, and my future MIL was having anxiety over being in the spotlight for a mother-son dance.

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  • Piper
    Dedicated April 2022
    Piper ·
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    Of course it is!

    The only requirements that make a marriage valid:

    1) A marriage licence.

    2) An officiant who is recognized by your state.

    3) Maybe 1 or 2 witness(es) but they are not required everywhere. Here in Ohio, witnesses are not required.

    Everything else is optional.

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    You don't have to do anything at your wedding you don't want to and are free to include (or skip) traditions as works for you. The only thing you NEED to do is complete whatever is legally necessary to finalize your marriage, which is usually filing an application for and completing a marriage license with someone who is legally permitted to authorize a marriage in your state.

    We planned on doing a parent/child dance with me dancing with my mom and my husband dancing with his mom, but neither of our moms seemed really into the idea so we ditched it at the last minute. Both of our families weren't really comfortable with being the center of attention at all so we also ended up eliminating from the procession at the last minute as well. Kind of a bummer, but it wasn't super important to us so if including them made our parents feel uncomfortable it just wasn't worth it.

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  • Guadalupe
    Just Said Yes May 2023
    Guadalupe ·
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    What song did you use if you don’t mine me asking ?
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  • Sarah
    Savvy November 2022
    Sarah ·
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    My girl by the Temptations
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    Savvy October 2022
    Angela ·
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    We’re skipping both. Seems too antiquated for us, and we each have a disabled parent.
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