Is it OK to include Registry enclosure cards with my invites?

Thanks Pumpkin's Sunshine! I will remove it!

Almost every invite I've gotten had the little tag in it. I didn't think anything of it. We're not going to, but we'll include it in our wedding website. Maybe it wad more acceptable to do it in the past or maybe it was a regional thing...I don't know.

Tradition-wise and etiquette-wise, you're not supposed to include the registry information anywhere on your invitations. Put that information on your website or have you mom/grandma/BMs use word-of-mouth to tell everyone.

No, please do not do it. It does make it seem that they HAVE to bring a gift. I would pass along the info if they call and ask. I never did and had NO problem with people getting stuff off of my registry.

Never never never! This should have gone onto your save the dates or even an engagement or bridal shower invitation. You don't want your guests to feel obligated to bring a gift.

If you didn't include your wedding website or registry information on your STD or other invitations, maybe just call up your guests and let them know you forgot to put the wedding website on the STD and it is www.blahblahblah.com. Don't specifically say that it has your registry information, just say it has information on activities and accommodations that they might find helpful.

I also always tell my brides that they should NEVER tell anyone where they are registered unless they ask you first, not only is it in bad taste it makes you seem desperate for gifts.

We are not putting registry info in the invites. But I do like it when they send them in invites. I like to know just what they want. Like Lowes cards.

We are including our website, it has hotel info, area info and everything else. I did not want to include directions etc in the invite.

I just had this debate with my Mom the other day. To avoid any taboo situations, I plan to include a small card (probably the size of a business card) that says "For more information, please visit our wedding website" with a link. This will not only include registry info, but hotel accommodations too.

This way, we aren't directly including the registry information, but making it easily accessible to our guests.

I am also going to include my in my invites for the same purpose. The majority of my guests are from out of town and I cannot simply have them bringing the gifts to the wedding as it is back in my home state and not where we live now. Also, I have several guests that are not computer savvy that will need to physically go to the store to purchase an item, if they choose to. Another reason why it is okay to include it in your invites is, I am not simply inviting all of the women that are invited to the wedding to my bridal shower; as a bridal shower is for immediate female family members to attend.

This is making me laugh. People are so hardcore about wedding etiquette when its really about having an amazing day with loved ones. So what if you don’t do things exactly the way you’re supposed to? Who makes these rules anyway? If the person thinks something is “bad etiquette” for something we are doing, then they don’t have to come to my wedding. We are doing a cookie bar which apparently is “not traditional” and we are not getting married in a church with is “‘not traditional.” Do what makes you happy!

View Quoted Comment We did the same thing. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I did exactly what my friends did for their weddings.. and some didn’t have a wedding website, so they put where they registered on the info sheet. I’m GLAD they did and was NOT OFFENDED because I knew where to get their gift/gift card.

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Tradition and etiquette are two very different things. Break tradition all you want (and btw, cookie bars are very traditional in some circles). Etiquette is another word for good manners, however, and should be followed. It's not rude to not get married in a church. It is rude to blatantly tell your guests you expect them to bring you presents, which is why it's not appropriate to mention gifts in any way in wedding invitations.

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Gonna disagree with you on that one chief

I’ve never been invited to a wedding that did NOT include the registry info on a small details paper that was included within the invite. And I’m not inviting people who live all the way across the county to a bridal shower that I know for a fact will not be able to come. I’m also not inviting all 200 people to a wedding shower.

Hello,

I don't have a wedding website and only a percentage of guests were invited to the bridal shower (obviously) I already ordered the invitations without registry information on them. i will thinking of adding enclosure cards in regards to the honeyfund i created. How did people who didn't create a wedding website get the word out? No one is going to call my parents and ask them about a registry.

View Quoted Comment If they want the information they will find it, either by asking or Googling. You should not be advertising your registries in your invitations.

View Quoted Comment Ok. Gotcha.