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Just Said Yes September 2021

Is it ok to have wedding four months before reception?

Megan, on September 2, 2020 at 4:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

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So have to postpone my wedding reception bc of covid I could take my chances but I’m an older bride and don’t want to risk the health of my parents and/or wear masks I believe a vaccination is coming but not in time for my date- I don’t want to stress about it and the longer I wait the more $$ we will lose

So I’m thinking of still getting married on my original date but moving the reception to a later date- is that tacky? Should we do avow renewal, show a video of our actually wedding etc?
Wedding would be in May 2021 reception would be in September 2021 ?

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Latest activity by Liz, on September 3, 2020 at 9:03 AM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 2, 2020 at 5:02 PM
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It's not tacky at all ! in fact that's what a lot of covid brides do now
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Legend July 2022
Lisa · on September 2, 2020 at 5:02 PM
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I think this is totally fine! A lot of people are doing their ceremonies/minimonies on their original date, and postponing the reception a year later. I think 4 months in between the two is totally fine!
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Master October 2022
Jana · on September 2, 2020 at 5:04 PM
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Many people are getting married now legally and having a vow renewal with reception later. As long as you are very transparent that the later date is a vow renewal and not something else (calling it a 'real' wedding to null and void the legal ceremony, etc), then you will be fine.

You can do anything you wish. Have a renewal ceremony, just a reception with video for those who want to watch.
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Devoted October 2021
Adrienne · on September 2, 2020 at 5:06 PM
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Definitely nothing wrong with this, I'd say even before COVID it wasn't unheard of to do this depending on circumstances. But surely with the pandemic going on, no one would think ill of you for having to postpone the reception. And you can do whatever you want with it, have a video of your ceremony at the reception to play during dinner, do a whole ceremony again even or do a vow renewal. The possibilities are endless.
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Expert February 2020
Hermione · on September 2, 2020 at 5:19 PM
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Given the current pandemic, a lot of people are having lavish planned elopements. And then a big "We're married" party later.

You could do either plan and not be perceived as weird. Just because global pandemic is a pretty big monkey wrench.
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Alexandria · on September 2, 2020 at 5:50 PM
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I feel like given the whole COVID thing it is definitely NOT tacky! A lot of brides are choosing to go this route. Either way you choose to do it will be great! And if it's easier and less stressful/ better for your families then yes absolutely wait and celebrate a little bit later with everyone. People will understand especially given the circumstances.
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Master October 2020
Margaret · on September 2, 2020 at 5:51 PM
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In today’s world, the covid world, definitely nothing wrong with it. I think after this year we will see a lot of out of the norm things done in the future
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Lynnie · on September 2, 2020 at 6:04 PM
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There's nothing tacky at this at all! You could do a unity ceremony or vow renewal for the later celebration, or just jump straight in to the reception!
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Just Said Yes September 2021
Megan · on September 2, 2020 at 6:59 PM
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Thank you - do you think we should do a renewel of vows
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Master October 2022
Jana · on September 2, 2020 at 7:11 PM
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You and your fiance decide that. You can do whatever you like.
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Legend July 2022
Lisa · on September 2, 2020 at 7:11 PM
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That is totally up to you - if you wanted to do a ceremony with your reception on the new date, I think a vow renewal would be a beautiful idea!
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Just Said Yes September 2021
Megan · on September 2, 2020 at 7:11 PM
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Thanks you are
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Expert February 2020
Hermione · on September 2, 2020 at 7:57 PM
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This depends on the crowd and the goal. Is the goal to recreate the wedding or celebrate the marriage?
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Master September 2020
Nicole · on September 2, 2020 at 8:45 PM
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Echoing everyone else; definitely not a bad thing! We’re getting married later this month with just parents in attendance and then will have our reception next November (when we can hopefully congregate in a large group again!).
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Devoted August 2020
Sherri · on September 2, 2020 at 9:11 PM
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No rules apply due to COVID 🤣🤣🤣
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VIP October 2020
Ingrid · on September 2, 2020 at 11:22 PM
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We had to postpone our stateside reception out until next September. We're still getting married in Jamaica in October. We decided to make our reception a 1 year anniversary celebration.
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Savvy October 2021
Liz · on September 3, 2020 at 9:03 AM
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I think with everything going on there isn't a right or wrong way to do things right now. It's definitely not tacky! I'm having my minimony 10/17/20 and my vow renewal/reception 10/23/21. I will also make sure on my invites for next year to say its for a vow renewal so people know we are already married.
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