Is it ok to cut down on all the post-nuptial family photos?

I was the MOB, and I fully supported my daughter's wishes that there NOT be the flood of family photos. It was more important for them to get there 'couples' photos after the ceremony in the setting sun, and we simply didn't want to waste time with pictures of large groups that we knew we'd look at once or twice and then never care about.

Right after the ceremony, we spent about 10 minutes doing photos of the immediate families only...bride with her parents and brother, groom with his parents and brother, each with their mom only, dad only and brother only. Then off they went. We then joined the cocktail hour and enjoyed the rest of the evening.

You sound so reasonable! Mind stepping in as MOB on our wedding day?

I'm having such a hard time balancing what photos *I* want and are important to *me* with how my parents will feel about them.

i.e. I don't in any way want a picture with just me and my mom, but I would LOVE one of just me and my aunt (who has been probably the closest to a mom that I will ever have). But I know that if I did that, my mom would throw an absolute FIT. My mom is the ticking time bomb just waiting to go off at this wedding, and I don't know how to manage her -- PARTICULARLY with photos, as that's the most obvious way for relationships to play out quite plainly.

I wish I could convince every parent to just let their kids have their day. One of the greatest things we did was give our daughter and now-husband almost total control over every decision, even though we covered a majority of the costs. We always viewed it as THEIR day, not ours...and it actually reduced the stress all the way around.

They got the wedding they truly wanted, and we got to witness their pure joy.

Who is paying for the photographer? If you are, then you absolutely control the shot list. Maybe enlist your day-of coordinator to be the gatekeeper here in corralling the people for the pictures you want, or a trusted friend/family member to keep your mom occupied during the post-ceremony photo session.

Whatever you end up, I wish you luck.

I see nothing wrong with skipping some family photos! You'll want to look at your wedding pictures and be happy

Just tell your photographer. She/he doesn't care if you want fewer family photos. The photog only wants to shoot photos that you will like. Let the pro direct the group and just set up fewer family photos.

Just FYI: Do take a few photos with your parents. You may reconcile someday and when they pass you will be so glad to have those few photos.

We got a second photographer to get professional photos of everyone. We wont have them all edited, BUT it will be nice to have photos to share with everyone of the day and look back on.

Ultimately you choose what photos you want to have. And ask your photographer! They might have some suggestions too