Is it OK to be involved in planning my bachelorette party?

What I did was gave the location (NYC) I'm staying local as I'm having a DW, ideas such as a comedy show, dinner and a few dive bars and then hit up a night club (haven't done that in years). I'm not sure on the dress attire but typically the bride either wears white and everyone else wears black or something like that. I figure everyone has a LBD in their closet.

Give your bridesmaids the idea of the burlesque show and let them run with the rest, i'm sure it will be a blast. Who doesn't have fun having a few drinks/laughs with their friends? Perhaps just check in here and there make sure the date is nailed down and tell them what you would like them to wear/theme. Best of luck, enjoy!

Let them plan it! And please don't tell them what to wear!

You can give suggestions, but don't plan it!

I would just tell them where geographically you want it (but don't get more specific than a town or city) and what kind of vibe you'd enjoy the most. If you want more of a laid back evening make sure they know that or if you want to party hardy then make sure they know that.

Let them plan it. If they ask, give input. I was in a wedding where the bride planned every bit of her bachelorette party- and would not take our not so subtle suggestions to back off and let us plan it. As a result, the bridesmaids were rather resentful about the whole ordeal. Give them input if asked, but overall, trust the people you are closest with to throw you a party you'll enjoy!

Give input if asked. Otherwise, it's something your friends want to do for you, so you should let them throw the party they want. Hopefully they know you well and want to make you happy, so don't worry about the rest.

I let my MOH know a few things I did and didn't want. I told her I wasn't comfortable with strippers (not surprising and she wasn't either but I put it out there because I knew there was someone who would push for it so I wanted to have it on the record). I also mentioned that I would love something simple and cheap like dinner and bar hopping which is part of what we ended up doing along with some fun games at home. I wanted to make it clear that I didn't expect anyone to shell out a ton of money/rent a limo/etc. I also said I was fine with it being casual and people wearing jeans or whatever they felt like. I didn't want people to have to dress a certain way or buy a certain outfit. Personally I think certain elements of weddings have gotten a little out of control. For example my MOH was in a wedding recently where everyone was expected to spend so much money that really she shouldn't even have gone because it was more than she could afford but she felt she had to because she was a BM and worse she then couldn't afford to eat much, drink at all or have any real fun. I also don't care for when people at bachelorette parties are expected to dress in a specific way. It's one thing when I see matching t-shirts that they've been given or something but I don't like when everyone is asked to wear, say, a pink dress. What if I don't have one? That's just another expense and it sucks if that means I can't afford to come at all.

I have been letting my moh know things. She wants to go to bars and I don't like going out to bars. So if we go to bars it would totally suck.

I think you can make suggestions about what you'd like to do, and what you don't want - but it's really up to them to make those decisions, including whether to throw you one at all.

If you want to host your own burlesque girls night out, you could always do that.