Is it acceptable to register and have a shower for a second wedding?

Consensus is it sort of depends on the circumstances. Did you just have your first wedding 2 years ago and get a bunch of gifts that you kept? Then it's considered a bit tacky.

Was your first wedding 10+ years ago? Less tacky.

And so on.

I would lean against it. If you never had a shower then go for it! But if you had a shower already, I would decline one if someone offered personally

ETA - you can definitely have a registry still tho even if you're not having a shower that way if someone wants to buy you a gift they can go to the registry

I am getting married for the second time and we registered. I was married for 10 years and have been divorced for 5. When I left I took nothing with me so I had to start from scratch.

Was first married in 2010, divorced 3 years ago and he kept everyrhing.

Katie are you talking a vow renewal/celebration of love or is this a second marriage as in divorced and getting remarried?

I'm divorced and getting remarried, I did have a shower in 2010, ex took everything and I've started from scratch.

I think it is OK to have a registry but do not plan your own shower.

I find it in bad taste to have showers for second weddings, especially if there is not long of a gap between the marriages. I didn't have a shower and had a courthouse wedding for my first marriage. My second, no shower and small wedding. I would side-eye people who have showers for second marriages.

I'm with Katie - If someone offers to throw you one - great, if not I would definitely not ask for one. Make a registry but don't share it unless someone asks for it. 2010 wasn't long ago, and divorced 3 years isn't long ago either. Its like having a baby shower for a second child - Not really appropriate when the 1st child is only a year or two old.

What brought this all up was I was asked if i was registered by a friend, and not knowing if it was acceptable or not I just stated I was unsure. I might just created a small registry and if they ask I'll tell them. Thank you all!

I think it is perfectly fine, as I am sure everyone who knows you, knows that your Ex kept everything.

My mother is throwing me a shower. It's my second wedding, my FH's first.

I eloped in 2007 and didn't have a shower the first time.

I admit I still feel a bit funny about it, but I'm gratefully accepting the gesture of the shower.

I agree with most everyone it depends on the circumstances. This is my First Wedding however it will be my FH second. My MOH is throwing us a shower because she said that I deserve one. Now I didn't ask her to throw one either she just did it on her own. My FH family is super excited for the shower and can't wait to come they don't care that it is his second wedding or not.

My entire bridal party insisted on throwing me a shower, they love a good excuse for a party and I am grateful to them! It is my second marriage, my first was in 1993 and I did have a shower. I have registered for small items such as a whisk, waffle maker and some new dish towels. My step mom to be questioned me about the "type" of a shower it would be because of it being my second marriage-she wondered if it was a "donate" to charity, recipe shower or just a luncheon. I told her no, it's just a regular, no theme kind of shower. But with mimosas!

I would make a small registry in case any of your guests (probably the older folks) want to purchase you a physical gift for the actual wedding. I personally don't think showers for second marriages are a good idea, especially if your first wedding was as recent as 2010. Exception: it's the groom's second marriage, but the bride's first.

We're not doing either (shower or registry). I was married in 1977 and divorced in 2000. He was married in 1985 and divorced in 2003. We already have more "things" than we need and are trying to down-size as it is.

We don't have a wedding party, either, but if someone wants to throw a shower, I'm not going to stop them.

Noone threw us a shower, but we did have a registry. Good thing we did because everyone asked about one. Then also the first time I was married in was 1984....actually my MOH in my first wedding was a bridesmaid in my second one!

This is my second marriage, I have been divorced for 10+ years. I didn't register and am not expecting a shower

I think it's ok to register. Maybe, keep it modest though.

I got married in 1999. Divorced in 2013. Only 2 families plus family were at our first weddings. We registered and have already gotten a lot. No shower though.