Is everyone else's fh lazy with wedding tasks and planning?

I don't think your FH understands how much work goes into a wedding! I hope he'll realize that soon and help you as he should! My FH likes every idea I have, so it's not much for me to go on. I guess better this than him being groom-zilla!

I feel u big time .... i ask my FH and he just sits and whines .... and it gets to me too .... like i asked him who he wanted to invite and instead of giving me a list he decided not to invite any friends ..... i was so mad luckily i just used the gust list we used for our baby shower for his family

My FH aand I just finally had a discussion about this. I've been working my butt off trying to get everything planned aand he hasn't helped, but I really hadn't asked him to either. I sent him screen shots of all the remaining tasks to do off wedding wire checklist this am and he responded with "Omg I'm so overwhelmed looking at this. Should we push the wedding back?" We ended up agreeing I will delegate the tasks (with specific instructions and dates they need to be done by) to him and I will do the rest. I did about half today on my lunch break and still finish the rest this afternoon and give him the list tonight. Hes normally super punctual aand great with deadlines, so I guess I'll soon find out how this will work.

Haha, I think this is a pretty normal man-attitude when it comes to weddings, unfortunately! What I learned to do was only delegate things to my FH that it wasn't critical if they get done lol. Like I basically gave him a to do list (had to remind him at least once a week to check his to do list and make sure he did the things on it) but I ended up taking charge of everything that HAD to get done, because I was so nervous when he kept procrastinating or just flat out not doing things I think it's honestly so important to avoid as much wedding conflict as you can... which is why I pretty much accepted that I'm the planner of the relationship, and I am constantly reminding myself of his other great qualities (even though wedding planning definitely isn't one of them!) Try only giving him tasks that it won't be the end of the world if they don't get done. Then that way he'll have something to do and if he comes through it's great, but if not it's not a huge deal!

Hate to say it, it some guys are like this sometimes. My FH is supposed to keep in contact with DJ (his own boss for pete's sake!)… nope haha. His dad volunteered to make arrangements for our rehearsal dinner.

You know... maybe I should give them a call just in case.

LOL I told my FH this about 2 weeks ago.... it took him 6 months to pick out pants for the groomsmen. He was in a wedding last week and came back and gave me a hug and told me how much he appreciates me after seeing what goes into a wedding. He promised to help more.... we will see haha.

My fiance is not like this at all! I'd honestly not marry such a lazy and childish man. However I made that known well before we were engaged.
I find a lot of women tend to nanny their significant others so they think they can whine their way out of things, make sure you don't encourage this or you'll have a child instead of a husband!

My hubby is Type A like me! We actually got into a few (minor) battles over creative direction while planning.

But...I had an issue with a friend I worked with on a project. Finally, I started making a list of all the crap that needed to be done every week--showed him my part of that list and give him his (so much less, ugh). I made us check in every week instead of giving one big deadline to him that was due months later. You can try that. Anything he can do every week will help.

I was literally just about to post about my FH and his “I don’t care, you just pick” about every decision when I saw your post! Love him to death but a woman needs a little help! Lol!

Men will be men. They think this is our responsibility.... Although they are the ones who asked they think their job is done there.... But... They are all like that. I only ask for his opinion and if he likes it go with it, if he doesn't, then I get more ideas until he is ok with it.
That's all I could do lol

My FH is super supportive and has been fairly helpful and I still nearly threw the wedding planning book at his head yesterday because I felt overwhelmed and like I was doing all the work. (Ok, so I managed to plop it onto his lap the first time. When he just blinked at it and said that didn't help him figure out what to do, THEN I ripped it from his hands, angrily flipped to the list and shoved it in his face. ...In my defense, I've been like a broken record since January: "please look at the list" every 3 days.)

And we are a super chill couple who communicate pretty well.

So. Y'know.
Relationships and planning big events.

I don't know about your FH but mine just really has no idea what to and he has no wedding vision.

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Groomzilla… I love that.

Yes, ladies! Keep it coming! Let it all out! We are listening and i ****% empathize with you! Hang in there!! We are all KILLING it!! one day they will learn

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Haha i blame his mother for him being so lazy and childish sometimes. And that's exactly why I refused to help him out with those church certificates. He could do those himself and it takes 2 seconds. I also was not about to let him give up on inputting the RSVP names... I do get impatient, which will tempt me to just do it but it's been nice watching him suffer because he needs to be responsible too. HE NEEDS TO LEARN! Mom has been babying him waaaaayyy too long. I'm pretty sure If I complained about this to her, she would think I'm being too hard on him

Mine is slightly like this except it stems from the fact that he’s letting me control the details because he wants me to be happy with our wedding (which may be an excuse to not have to deal with it lol) The only thing I can get is opinions on things and if we spend more than 20 mins looking at things it gets boring and repetitive to him. I think most guys just want to show up to their wedding lol