Is cake cutting necessary?

It's your wedding, so you should do what you want. If you read through any of the forums here, you'll find lots of couples ditching the old school traditions, and doing their own thing. Nothing wrong with that.

If you're not into the cake cutting, don't do it. I would make sure you have dessert of some kind for your guests, whether that be cake, cupcakes, cookies, dessert bar, etc. But that's the beauty of planning your own wedding. You get to do whatever you want! There are no rules. Make yourselves happy!

Nope. We didn’t cut a cake, and guess what? Still married! No one seemed bothered— I’d they missed it, they didn’t say anything, and if they did, I frankly wouldn’t care because , hey! My wedding! This is not something that affects guest experience AT ALL (and I am the biggest proponent for guest experience!). To me it was nothing more than a photo op that would take away from my party, and we already had plenty of photo ops that day. I didn’t miss it at all and I certainly haven’t come to regret it after the fact. Don’t forget: you know you best!

You can skip cake and be fine. You could have wedding donuts, wedding fruit, wedding pie. There is tiered wedding pie and you could cut the apple pie. Anyone who complains about eating pie instead of cake doesn't need to be there.

If you want to cut cake then you could have a small tiered cake of 4/6 and it would serve the 20 people that want cake.

We didn’t cut a cake! No one noticed or cared. Some older people tried to tell us we needed one when we were engaged. When I asked why they said we needed a cake cutting picture. That wasn’t a good enough reason for me to spend an extra 2 grand. We had 3 different types of mini desserts and have no regrets!

No it's not. We aren't even having cake. We're doing donut towers. It's your wedding. It can be as different or as similar as everyone else's as you want it to be. There is absolutely no wrong or right way to do YOUR special day!!

Um no, not a problem if you don't! We weren't going to but the photographer said we may as well get pictures of it, so we didnt announce it and the cake was kinda off in a corner anyway, so we did it in secret. No one noticed and no one cared! We were going to do a sheet cake but got bullied by my mother to do a traditional tiered cake. 100% not worth the extra money. Just do what YOU guys want!

It’s your wedding! Do whatever you want! We’re having a small 2 tier cake. The bottom tier, we will cut, and the bridal party/parents will eat from it. The top tier, we will take home and freeze, and eat on our one year anniversary. The guests will have cupcakes. But if cutting a cake is not your thing, then don’t feel pressured to do it! Making personal decisions on how you want your wedding to be, will make it unique and memorable! Who knows, may a guest will like how you changed something, and want to incorporate that into their future wedding. Do you!

We're still undecided, but can see both arguments. We may end up doing the cake cutting just for those reasons.

Skip it if you dont want to do it! The last 2 weddings I've been to the cake was in such a place that nobody could see them cutting it anyway!

I don't think you're crazy at all...I really feel like the wedding industry can be so pushy! Do they charge an extra cake cutting fee? Is the coordinator getting to get you to buy an actual wedding cake instead of the sheet cake?

Please do what u n ur fh want to make yall happy... sheet cakes r way less expensive and easier if it has to travel, so dont be pressured because someone wants to make a profit by suckering u into changing ur mind... sound like u would be a new trendsetter by being the 1st 2 not cut a cake there... if u do decide to cut it, it's nothing wrong w sheet cake cutting, its wayyyyy easier... u can still add a topper or ur letter n spruce it up if need be by adding a few flowers, sparkly stones, or ribbon on the table around it...

While it's not a necessity, the cake cutting is one of my favorite traditions that I don't want guests to miss! But it's completely your choice. My venue gave me a lot of push back for wanting buffet style cuz "that's not how they do it in NY where the one owner was from" and I said idc it's my wedding and that's what we want!

Do what you want. Truly, the only things that are actually necessary are 1) a licensed (legally recognized) officiant and 2) a declaration of intent (the I dos). Everything else is purely up to you and your preferences. If you don't want to cut the cake, then don't! We've gotten rid of several traditions that we don't like.