Is anyone planning on eloping?

Yes, I wanted to elope but future hubby is not budging. I do not like spending money and I get stressed out easily, so we compromised on a microwedding of 10-15 guests.

View Quoted Comment Yes that's me. I get stressed easily and we dont need to spend a huge amount just to say i do. We have 5 kids but ones an adult . But still we could use the money toward them

I’ve felt like on both sides of your dilemma. You don’t want him to have regrets by not having a wedding, but at the same time you want to make sure you’re feelings are taken into account. So maybe a small wedding is the solution. Scale back on the guest list if you can and make the best of it. Good luck!!

Were eloping! We're having all the wedding elements we want without all the headache of guests. It's def the right choice for us.

My dream wedding is a Vegas chapel with Elvis as our witness, but FH told me absolutely not lmao... So instead I’m planning a local micro-wedding. Hoping to keep it under 30 people and under $5000.

Our wedding is a sort of an elopement, we are having a courthouse ceremony with only the two of us (maybe my parents, maybe) and then a little party at my sisters house, more of a family gathering than anything.

I feel like that's me. I wanted to run off and get married. Go to the mountains and have someone marry us there. My family isnt really close. Hes the one who wants a wedding. At the beginning we would get into arguements. I would tell him that's not what I want. I still want to just elope. He gets upset I'm not excited and I tell him he knows why. I'm just wanted to avoid having argument with my mom, which is happening right now. It's funny how these men are more into having a wedding than us women lol. But since my wedding is less than 50 people are okay. I just hope he doesnt invite anyone to the ceremony. He tends to do that and I get so mad. I feel its rude to invite people to the ceremony and not the reception. But in the end you have to remember that theres 2 people involved and being with him is about compromise. Plus in the end, it's about you two getting married.

It would definitely save time, money and stress. We were going to do the whole semi big wedding with friends and family (about 50 people or so cause we didn't care to have it any bigger than that). Mid way through, we decided to just elope. It'll just be immediate family so possibly 10 of us total unless our plans change again.

Oooo that's a big one. I want to get marry in a church and he and the family wants it outside. I mean I like the hole idea about making the outside look the way you want it to look like but I rather have it in a church underneather God's roof.

View Quoted Comment Lizbeth that's what my family and my FH wants and I don't know how to go about that. It's my first time and I want it to be perfect. Maybe you got some ideas than.

Have the wedding you want, not what other people want. We got engaged 2 years ago, planned several big weddings, and I wasn't happy at all, stressed, wasted and spent too much money. Finally called it all off. Now here we are, getting married May 25th secretly (as in none of our friends or family know). And I couldn't be more excited. I am SOOOO excited. No stress, no wasting money, no expectations. Just what we want.

Why don’t you have him be evolved in the wedding planning so he can see how much work actually needs to be put in wedding planning (maybe he will change his mind) and hopefully that helps you be less stressed since he is doing some work as well.

We eloped 6 years ago and the day was intimate and perfect! Just us and our kids, plus an officiant and witness. Only thing is now we are planning a vow renewal celebration, as we now both feel that we missed out on celebrating with our loved ones. The positive spin on that is we get to enjoy both experiences. You can always do something big later on, if he's still feeling like something's missing! 😊

I couldn't agree with you more! It's a first wedding for both of us, yet I'm secretly fantasizing about an oceanside ceremony with just parents and siblings.

Sometimes I wonder if we should have.. Everything is so expensive haha

I feel the same way, all this planning is stressing me out and I would rather just elope, have a nice honeymoon, and save for a house. He wants a big wedding though so I am just kinda going along with it.