We have a venue booked near us and have already paid probably $2k in deposits but after having our engagement party and realizing how fast 5 hrs went by and not feeling like I got to spend much time with my guests, I’m now rethinking our wedding. This will be our 2nd marriage and we’re both in our mid-forties. My first wedding was an absolute disaster so I’ve secretly always wished for my dream wedding. Now I’m looking at this logically that we are going to spend close to $20k for a 5 hr party that’s going to go by ridiculously fast. I went to a destination wedding years ago in Riviera Maya, Mexico that was such an incredible time for guests and the wedding party - not to mention beautiful wedding. If we went this route it would be half the cost and we’d actually get a honeymoon in. I’m starting to heavily sway this way. Anyone else doing a destination wedding?
I want a destination wedding, he doesn’t. We’re looking at $20k so far here, and I feel just about ready to back out on this, and just take a break for a week in even thinking about it. I feel stressed and confused as to why weddings are so damn expensive. I wish he were open to destination in Tulum, i would do it tomorrow.
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I’m sorry you guys aren’t on the same page about it. I did take a week off of my planning to just take a deep breath and then started doing some research on destination weddings. Once I started showing him the perks of having one and the savings, etc- he was completely on board. Trying to explain to my parents hasn’t been the easiest but they also aren’t paying for it and realize it’s our day. Good luck to you! I started losing sleep at night and having mild anxiety attacks when I realized what we were going to spend for our short celebration and it was starting to stress me out.
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Im so stressed out I won’t even look at him. I withdraw when I’m stressed. He keeps saying he wants to get married in the states. I don’t know why, maybe bc his sons can’t go out of the country. His ex is an evil disaster , so he doesn’t want to deal with her.