Is anyone else searching for a new job while wedding planning?

I would say, don't tell them during the interview process that you have a wedding coming up. Only bring it up if/when you have an actual offer letter in hand.

Most companies are understanding, and may give you PTO upfront (prorated for the year) or may say that it would be Unpaid time off. You won't know until it happens.

View Quoted Comment Okay. I will be sure to wait. I just didn't know if they would feel like that is lying or something. I'm not concerned about PTO because I haven't used any from my current job at all this year and I get paid out for any unused which is more than I would need for my honeymoon. Thank you for your suggestion!

I am going through this too. My plan is to bring it up before I accept a job offer. That way it gives them control still if they aren't happy with the idea of giving it to me.

So this isn’t completely the same but I’m currently looking for a new job and I have multiple trips and flights booked coming up (we live out of our home country so we book travel home early). I wouldn’t broadcast that you’re having a wedding coming up but at the end of the recruitment process, if it looks like you’re going to get an offer letter (or if you already have one), that would be the time to bring it up.

Honestly, any good company will honor your commitments if you already have things booked. My mom is a hiring manager for sales and marketing and I’ve talked in circles around this with her and she always said if she hired someone and they had a commitment they needed time off for, she would give it to them with zero hesitation. I’m not sure I would want to work with a company who automatically declined my request for time off for my wedding because they’re unlikely to be very flexible regarding other things in work-life balance.

I suppose the only way it could get sticky is if you need to accrue PTO or if you start with the full PTO hours right away. My last company, we accrued PTO and I had to take a few days unpaid over the holidays.

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I don’t think it’s lying. Your personal life and upcoming nuptials are no one’s business during an interview; your experience and professionalism should be on display. If anyone ever made a comment on, “wow, why didn’t you tell us?” “I’m so sorry. Whenever I bring up my wedding, that seems to become the focus of the conversation because it is so exciting. I really wanted to talk about my experience and what I could bring to the team. I’m really excited about working here so I didn’t want to get side tracked!” Which isn’t false, every vendor I worked with at my last job wanted to hear about my wedding more than work I need them to do for me, haha.

PS - I got paid out for PTO at my first company position - it was awesome! I used too much at my last job, lol.

View Quoted Comment This. Seriously, don't worry about it. My fiance started a new job knowing he would have to take off a few days for his step-sister's wedding, and it didn't phase his employers. Remember, by the time they give you an offer letter, they have a vested interest in you and the skills you bring to the table. Making use of you in the long term is more important to a company than giving you a few days off in the short term. They may give you PTO upfront, or tell you to take it unpaid. My wedding is in March 2019 because I originally wanted a winter wedding, but since I can't use any of my PTO until I've been here a year, I decided to push the wedding back a bit. My fiance, on the other hand, got two weeks front loaded and like seven personal days (he sucks, lol). You'll be just fine. Good luck on the job hunt!

Thank you all! This was the confidence boost I needed. I have a phone interview today about a position that I feel would be a great fit. I'll wait to bring it up to them. I would need about a week and a half off, but I have over two weeks of PTO accrued at my current job that I'll be paid if I leave before the wedding.

I am in a similar position! My wedding is at the end of the year and I have been actively searching for new employment. As everyone has mentioned, I definitely wouldn’t mention it until a offer is on the table. Employers often ask if you have any major upcoming events that will interfere with training, so that may be a time to address it as well. Congratulations and good luck with your job search! Any fitting company should understand that you have a personal life!

I've had a few interviews in the last couple months and I was very honest with them. When they called me for a phone interview or to bring me in for a face to face interview I let them know up front the date I was getting married and my time off had already been approved at my current job and let them know the dates. I don't want to go through the interview process and waste anyone's time. It looks better if you're honest up front than waiting for the offer, accepting it, starting, and then letting them know.

Yes! I'm currently looking for other employment opportunities. When I first started with my current company, I told them I was going to California for a week. They still hired me and I started the week I came back from Cali

Last May I was looking for a new job when I knew that I was going to be the MOH in my best friend's wedding in mid June. I went through the whole interview process and when HR called me and offered me the position I told them that I had a wedding that I was in on X date and that I would be in Vermont (I live in Georgia) from X time to X time. They understood and postponed my start date until I was back, even though it was almost a month in the distance. If a company really wants you, they will wait for you.

My FH is in the Marines and we are having our wedding in May. Technically a “vow renewal” we got legally married last June for medical insurance reasons and to make sure when he got orders I would go with him. Whole family and all of our friends know and still calling it our wedding. Anyways, we have our wedding in May in Kansas. We currently live in Washington DC and just learned that we will be relocating to San Diego, CA in August. So I can currently trying to plan the wedding from halfway across the county, trying to find a house and a job completely across the country. I am a teacher with a Masters and 2 different teaching licenses so I am hoping I can find a job pretty quickly but it’s hard not knowing what will happen. Especially since I already don’t get paid in July. We aren’t going to CA before we move so I can’t do any in-person interviews and all of the public schools there want to do panel interviews so I am pretty nervous about not physically being there. Feel your pain about all the planning and life changes happening at once!

I’m a teacher currently in a temporary position, so I will be unemployed by June. I just started the job search for next year and I’m so stressed not knowing where I’ll be.
I planned the wedding for the last weekend of the summer knowing that I might have to start work the week before. I figured I’d have plenty of time to get ready for both. I will have to ask to skip out early the day before, but I don’t see it being a huge problem.
What is hardest to plan is the honeymoon. The past year and a half I’ve planned my life assuming I’d have a permenantly job and I didn’t. It’s frustrating to make sacrifices for something that might not happen.

Definitely dont ask about time off during the interview process, but if it’s absolutely necessary to take, mention it before you sign a contract. Good luck!

I started my new job about 6 months before our wedding. I would apply now, sometimes the hiring process takes a long time so you may be able to work it out so your start date would be after your wedding.

I was upfront with a company I'm currently in the interview process with and they've now got me on the final round of interviews. I'm going to not be as upfront for this other job I have a phone interview that I'd like more. Everyone has given great advice and I wish luck to everyone job searching!

My FH is looking for a new job right now and I think it's really taking a toll on him. He got an email yesterday morning that he didn't get a job that he KNEW wasn't really his skillset when he interviewed for it and it hit him really hard. I think the job hunt + wedding planning is a little much.

As for the time off, he's not mentioning that unless he gets an offer he wants to accept.

Big life changes over here too. FH got made redundanttowardsthe end of last year and we decided to move to an area where we both could find new jobs in our industries. We lived a 5 hour drive apart for 2 months while I was still looking for work and I just started my new job 3 weeks ago. It was a pretty stressful couple of months but I'm so glad we already booked all our vendors now that we don't live there.

I wouldn't specifically mention your honeymoon until they offer you the job unless they ask about time off. Most places are happy to work around it for the right person. I still mentioned mine before I signed the contract even though it's not until November just to avoid any surprises. Before that I steered clear of mentioning the wedding at all because I didn't want that to be part of what defines me, there were far more important topics to cover

Yes. I a tually have 2 interviews on Monday although they are in the same department each of the jobs are very different and the job search is stressful

I graduated college last May. I'm still at TJ Maxx, but hoping I can find something more related to what I want. I'm like in between right now, because I want to go to law school, but I have to retake my LSAT (FMIL passed three weeks before my test, needless to say I bombed it). It's kind of sucky.

Most companies will honor any preplanned vacations like a wedding. I wouldn't tell anything until the offer is made and they ask about it.