Is anyone else over 40 TTC?

I'm not in that situation.. But I would recommend talking to your OB... They can check everything out to make sure you're healthy and help you prepare for pregnancy.

I'm not close with her so i don't know her journey (I see her maybe once a year), but my cousin had her first at age 43 - healthy twin boys.

I only know one person who had a child in their 40s. It was a very hard pregnancy. She was on bed rest for most of it. She have been trying to conceive for awhile and had a few miscarriages. I think the hard pregnancy had more to do with that than her age. Is this your 1st child?

ON SOMEONE ELSES HANDS NOW BAHAHAHA

ETA: I guess I should add something constructive. Sorry. I have plenty of friend's whose parents were in their 40's when they had them?

So I'll chime in only because I work in a Fertility Clinic. So at age 42 sooner is better than later as we all know. The first thing I would do is see your GYN doc have your AMH done which checks your egg count reserve, check your hormones, and start checking OPK. Yes, every man thinks he has super sperm! I have seen so many different stories working in fertility everyone is different, but that's what I would suggest as first steps.

A good friend of mine at the time had her first child at 41. She had 5 terrible miscarriages before hand. She will be 43 at the end of the month and has 2 beautiful little girls.

I am. I turned 41 in April. I also have PCOS so i am not sure I can even ovulate (I'm taking Metforin to help with that, it's a drug for diabetics). I have been taking prenatal since February and have only been trying since we got married. I will give it 6 mos before talking to my OB.

Yes, this is my first child. I don't currently have an OBGYN (need to get one) but I mentioned it to one I see from time to time. She said that its a good sign that I get regular periods. I asked her if there is anything I should be doing to prepare and she was like "no..have regular sex and hope for the best." Well ok then. We are off to a decent start there.

Ohh Snarky, always thinking dirty thoughts. I think she meant, its IN someone elses hands, not On. But if she meant ON then that is pretty funny.

On a side note, my dad and my step mom had my sister when she was 42 and he was 45. She didn't have issues while being pregnant, but she was born 5 weeks early. And now I have a healthy, happy, insanely tall for her age 8yr old sister who I love dearly.

One of the VP's in my office just told us today that shes pregnant with twins (she 43) and it happened completely by accident and unplanned, she actually didnt even think she could have any more kids.

She did mention that her OBGYN told her that women over 40 tend to have a higher chance for natural multiples b/c of how our bodies "get rid of eggs to prepare of menopause" lol I have no idea what that actually means but it was an interesting tidbit.

I would speak to your OB. The way my OB explained it to me when I said I wanted to wait was..."If you are 35, your eggs are 35 years old." But I know quite a few people who had children in their late 30s and 40s.

My MOH's friend had in vitro at 49; she had triplets. It's possible. Good luck.

ps. My grandmother had my aunt in her mid-40s back when in vitro didn't exist...so it can happen naturally but it's not as common.

That's pretty funny Deanna (the insanely tall for her age comment) and that is interesting jade. I would rather not have twins but that is also out of my control.

I had my first when I was 41 and am now TTC a sibling (still 41).

We did go the IVF route though, and honestly we only tried for six months before going that route because we didn't want to leave anything to chance and I was getting older every month. Here is what I would say to you. Even if your hubby has super sperm, biology is not on your side. After 35, you can seek fertility assistance after six months, not a year. So once you're at the six month mark go to a reproductive endocrinologist and at least know what the landscape is. They will run two hormone tests, one ultrasound and check for uterine or blocked tube issues.

There are plenty of assisted reproduction options that come before IVF. But at some point it would be in your best interest to think about where your line is. How badly do you want children and how far are you willing to go in that quest?

DO NOT TAKE FERTILITY MEDS FROM AN OB! Go to a reproductive endocrinologist. There are so many horror stories out there about OB's prescribing clomid and ruining future chances!

Oh! And wait! My cousin was TTC and doing in vitro etc for a few years...finally she gave up. She got pregnant naturally at 40.

Thanks for the advice, Jnissa. This is something i have thought about but am not sure what the answer is as far as how far we want to go. We have talked about adoption too so that is an option.

Just FYI-in the medical world 35 is actually now considered advanced maternal age. Did you OB/GYN explain to you that you chance of having a baby with Down syndrome as your age increases?

At age 25, the risk of having a baby with Down syndrome is 1 in 1,250.

At age 30, the risk is 1 in 1,000.

At age 35, the risk is 1 in 400.

At age 40, the risk is 1 in 100.

At age 45, the risk is 1 in 30

With that being said...there are still plenty of women that conceive naturally after 40. My mother had me at 40 and my sister at 42. My good friend found out recently she is pregnant after 18 years of being married. Best of luck!

I know this Monica SC but it doesn't scare me as I know many people in their 40' s who have had healthy babies. Thanks for the good luck.

Good luck! I am only 28 but some ladies on here recently recommended the app Ovia to track your cycle. It tells you which days are your most fertile so you can concentrate your "tries" on those days.

My cousin had a baby when she was fourty (about two years ago now). She went through the pregnancy terrified that the baby would have Down syndrome or another disorder (a lot of genetic disorders increase in likelihood with age). She gave birth to a healthy girl, but nearly died in the process from complications in labor due to her age. She knew the risks from talking to an OB, and was willing to accept them. So, as others have said, talk to your OB to make sure that you are willing to go through anything that could happen.