Is anyone else having a hard time making a decision on everything?

We were all over the place until we decided on a guest list and budget. Then we knew the amount of people we needed to feed/seat/etc. and a venue fell into place. But we toured quite a few.

I felt like this the whole time! I think the worst thing I did was that when I would make a decision I would instantly start doing things to plan for it, including spending money on those things. I would try to hold back on putting down any deposits or buying any decor until you feel 100% confident of what you want!

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That's how I am! When I see something I like I want to move forward with it right away. Thank goodness my FH is more level-headed and wants to wait to make sure it's the best move for us. Once he's all in with a venue then I can really start planning. Thankfully, the only thing I've purchased so far was a cake topper

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We're doing something really small (20-30 ppl) and have sliced our budget in half just cause. So thankfully we've made decisions on the really important parts!

I let everything fall into place after the reception venue I really wanted wouldn't commit to us. It felt like we were never going to find a venue we liked/could fit everyone/fit what I wanted to pay.
Turned out one of the first venues i contacted but was hesitant on due to the price, was the one we went with.

Everything is kind of falling into place on it's own for us. We had a general idea of what we liked and wanted. Once we found the venue, everything else has just been happening and falling into place. After we found the venue, we found a DJ we liked, a photographer then I found my dress. I'm the same once I see something I like I want to move forward with it, FH is the same way so we are on the same page when it comes to planning for the most part.

I kind of felt all over the place, until we secured our venue. Once that was done, I had a clearer vision of what I wanted, and started planning accordingly. But I'm still taking my time making other decisions, because I don't want to regret any of the choices I make.

No clear vision, I feel like I’m in the same boat! We have some ideas but aren’t certain what order things needed to be decided on in!

Nope I totally went "squirrel" for the first 4 months. I was all over the place.

Omg I am so glad I found this post. I got engaged on Christmas Eve 2018 and want to get married 11/11/2019. So far I booked the venue in March after contacting I kid you not, 117 venues in Northern California and Hawaii. Finally booked a photographer 2 weeks ago because I really want to take engagement photos ASAP. I cannot decide on a florist. I had one in mind that I was about to pay a deposit for. Then I get 2 quotes from florists I thought would be a better match. It’s been 3 weeks since I almost booked the original florists and now I have been contacting another 5 florists every other day who I run across Pinterest or Instagram. Flowers are important to me but my planner keeps insisting that I am ordering too much for something I probably will throw away or just give away the night of my wedding. She wants me to spend $2000. I’m getting quoted for at least $****.

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Haha, good! I think my biggest planning regret has been jumping the gun on things too soon. You would not believe how many things I have returned and the headaches I've given myself! FH jokes that I've planned 5 different weddings at this point

You have plenty of time, so learn from my mistakes and take a step back, try to make most of your major decisions and feel CONFIDENT about them, before you spend ANY money! Some ideas sound great and then I've been like "well of course I'm sure I want THIS, I'd never change my mind on that!" but then guess what, even though it was a good idea, it ends up not working alongside something else that I decide I want later -.- So try to have the idea of what you want nailed down fully before you spend too much on anything.

When we first started the process of finding a venue I wasn't 100% sure what I wanted. I knew I didn't want a church since my fiance is not religious, a park because I am not really an outdoorsy person and I didn't want to deal with the weather, or a fire hall because I just don't envision that as a place I would want my wedding. In my mind, I was thinking I wanted the reception to be in like a ballroom so I started researching online in different areas since my family is in one state, most of my fiance's is in another state, and we live in third state. I figured it would be easiest to pick something in between both families. I reached out to people and we toured seven venues. Before touring them, I looked at pictures of each place and I knew which one I really loved just from the photos which is the one we ended up booking. I had fallen in love with it just by looking at it online so I was thrilled when my fiance loved it just as much. His brother is also getting married a few weeks after us. They had a much harder time because the brother's fiance wanted a venue that did everything for them from the D.J. to the catering. I had told her finding a venue to do everything for her would be difficult, but she was determined to try. Most venues will give a preferred vendor list, but you still have to be the one to work with them. She contacted nearly 100 venues in her area to try to find a venue that would handle everything for her, but she had no luck. They did book a venue, but like I told her from the beginning she was responsible for booking the other vendors. I had even recommended hiring a wedding planner, but she thought I venue would handle all of this for her. Needless to say, the experience of selecting a venue is different for everyone.

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OMG 117 venues?!? My head is spinning just thinking about that! We toured 4 and I reached out to probably 20ish. We're having a smaller wedding so I thought it would be easier to find a place but ultimately it's been very challenging because of the minimums. This industry is brutal.

I'm so excited that my FMIL has an in at a winery (had no idea). If we can get the venue at a great price then I really think everything will be so easy. I thought it would be easier to find a place that handles everything but now I'm seeing it's much more cost efficient to bring in our own catering, drinks, etc. My mom was a florist for years so that is saving us thousands!

We just kind of let things fall into place. We decided on our budget and approximate guest list, and then I started looking at venues online. We knew it would be summer because I'm in grad school and that's the only time we would have. I researched a bunch of places, made appointments at a few (we toured 5 total), and went with FH and our parents. We picked the 1 we liked the best. Then I went on to photographer and DJ. Did online research and FH and I interviewed a few and chose who we liked. I just did it one step at a time and was able to just move through the checklist.

View Quoted Comment Well my bright ideas highly influenced by the evils called Pinterest and Instagram have made this wedding fun yet stressful. I’m fortunate that my friend since Middle School has been an event planner for over 10 years and gifted me her services. I was a bit disappointed at first and thought that she would just be pinning photos from Pinterest and doing fun design stuff I wanted to do. Nope she literally broke down lists of things she wanted me to do with specific timelines like theme, guest list estimates, budget. She helped tour venues and review every single quote I received. Gave me the low down on staying on budget, not focusing on things that don’t matter (the whole evening I wasted finding the right chair sash color I purchased to only find out that my venue requires personal linen to be professionally dry cleaned and delivered) she keeps reminding me that it’s a 6 hour party. No one will remember what candles I had on their table.

Wedding wire makes inquiring info from vendors easy and that’s how I reached 117 venues. I also had about a 250 mile radius of possible cities my fiancé and I wanted to have our wedding at. I actually had my account marked as spam by wedding wire due too many inquiries. I had to delete and resign-up my email address again. Which actually ceased any previous communication I had which caused me to have to contact and vendors again.

6 more months to go!!