(I am going to preface this by saying that I don’t agree with the label ‘bridezilla’, and I think where a bride is being a bit unreasonable or out of line, it should be dealt with more delicately than simply calling them a ‘bridezilla’.)
There have been numerous times during wedding planning where I have been called a ‘bridezilla’ by my family for things that I genuinely believe were very reasonable decisions on my part and don’t come close to being irrational or unreasonable.
For example, I have been labelled a bridezilla by family in the following situations (amongst many others):
- - I told my bridesmaids they could pick whatever dress style they wanted so long as the dress came in black and was floor length, but that I didn’t want a slit in the dress that rose above the knee
- - I mentioned that I was going to have an emergency kit for the wedding day (i.e. deodorant, hairspray, tissues, chapstick, setting powder)
- - I showed the family a copy of the runsheet for the wedding day which sets out the exact time and locations where we and our vendors have to be at
- - I hired chairs for our reception because the venue’s chairs didn’t suit our décor and looked more appropriate for a conference
- - I said I didn’t want a stripper at my bachelorette because I wasn’t sure how my friends would react
The last wedding in our extended family was over 10 years ago and I am otherwise the first of my parents’ children to get married so I suspect it is mostly because they aren’t overly familiar with current trends and practices.
I haven’t taken offense to it myself as I have learnt to ignore it but it still has been a bit annoying to listen to, and it makes me wonder, have any of you been falsely labelled a bridezilla over things which were totally reasonable?!
