Dedicated June 2017

Is an exit necessary?

MrsO2017, on June 4, 2017 at 12:44 PM Posted in Planning 0 15
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I'm 6 days away and hadn't even thought about an exit because we're staying at the venue. Our wedding and reception are at a local bed and breakfast with gardens and a pavilion. We will be staying there friday and saturday night. I hadn't planned on doing an exit because we aren't going anywhere, but now I'm wondering if we should do something at the end of the reception? Would it be weird if we just hung out until everyone else left? lol


  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·

    No, you shouldn't leave before all your guests do. We were the last two out of our venue (minus the people who worked there).

  • Miranda
    VIP May 2017
    Miranda ·

    We stayed until the end when the lights got turned on and everyone left! It worked out okay because we talked to a few people and some people still wanted pictures with us before leaving. I'm glad we stayed until the end! I wouldn't have wanted to miss a minute!

  • Sarah
    Super June 2017
    Sarah ·

    I think it's situational and personal choice. We're not going anywhere so I don't intend to do one. My sister had one, but they were leaving for their honeymoon from the wedding. If you do have one, make sure you have somebody to pack up all your stuff from the venue.

  • MrsCohen
    Master July 2017
    MrsCohen ·

    We're not doing an exit. I'm staying an enjoying all of my wedding!

  • Mrs. Koalajetski
    Super May 2017
    Mrs. Koalajetski ·

    We hung out til everyone left. We wanted to soak up all the time we could with our guests.

  • Ashley
    Super February 2018
    Ashley ·

    We are staying at our venue as well.

    Our ceremony ends at 9, so around 9 we will be doing an exit.

    We are gonna go to steak n shake and get a milk shake because we both want an exit.

  • MrsO2017
    Dedicated June 2017
    MrsO2017 ·

    It makes me feel better that some people aren't having one, I didn't really care but some people were like "you have to have one!" I just want to relax. Our photographers are willing to stage one but I would feel silly pretending to leave and then not lol.

  • JerseyGirl
    Master May 2017
    JerseyGirl ·

    We also were the last two out. Why cut your party short? We wanted to enjoy every moment.

  • A.Magill.Since.May
    Master May 2018
    A.Magill.Since.May ·

    We aren't. My photographer suggested staging an exit in the middle of the reception "while everyone still looks their best" for the sake of pictures then everyone going back in side. That got a hard NO from me lol

  • Jay Farrell
    October 2019
    Jay Farrell ·


  • 2d Bride
    Master October 2009
    2d Bride ·

    The rule that the married couple should leave before anyone else arose from the 1950s sensibility that the bride always needed to be a virgin--or pretend to be. Thus, the couple should be so impatient to go have sex for the first time that they were the first ones to leave the reception. It also served to let guests know when they were allowed to leave.

    The rule was obsolete when I first got married in 1977. You definitely don't need to follow it now.

    Some people will have a grand exit from the ceremony, if the ceremony and reception are in different places or if they are going somewhere else for pictures after the ceremony. But when the ceremony, pictures, and reception are in the same place, it just looks silly.

  • Oceankissed
    Super November 2017
    Oceankissed ·

    We are doing an exit but it will be when everyone leaves at 11 - meaning everyone will come outside to leave and we will leave in a carriage to take us to the hotel. We are staying about 3 miles away at the hotel where our OOT guests are staying. If we were staying at the same place I don't think we would have an exit.

  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·

    Completely not necessary and silly, IMHO.

  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·

    Nope! We went up the elevator, to our hotel suite and had an after party, with our friends.

    For their last song, the band asked us to come up on the stage with them. I remember our guests on the dancefloor cheering for us and it was a dazzling ending to a fabulous evening.

  • Jess'sgirl
    VIP November 2018
    Jess'sgirl ·

    I told my photog I don't want one because we plan to leave the venue with our friends and go to the French Quarter.

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