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Monica
Beginner September 2020

Is a 2 hour distance too far for a wedding?

Monica, on March 4, 2018 at 9:49 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 35

My fiance and I have been looking at what seems like a thousand barn venues and unfortunately they have all been either very expensive or will not hold the number of guests we would like (for both dinner and dancing). Last weekend we went and toured one venue that is two hours from where we live...

My fiance and I have been looking at what seems like a thousand barn venues and unfortunately they have all been either very expensive or will not hold the number of guests we would like (for both dinner and dancing). Last weekend we went and toured one venue that is two hours from where we live and absolutely fell in love. It's beautiful, well priced, and has SO much to offer. The downfall is is that the majority of our guests would have about a two hour drive, with just a few of our friends who live a bit father away having a 2.5 or 3 hour drive. We do also have family who is going to have to fly in, but we figure they would just fly into the airport closer to the venue and then actually have a shorter drive from there. The venue does have an inn that can accommodate up to twenty people and for those who are into it, they are also welcome to tent for free right on the venues land. We would also provide transportation to and from a hotel that is about fifteen minutes from the venue (both the ceremony and reception will be at the same place). Is two hours too far to ask guests to drive? Both of our parents keep telling us that it is our wedding and we should do what makes us happy but my fear is that we will lose a lot of guests that we would really love to be there, especially those with children. Thanks for the help!

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  • BGR
    Expert May 2018
    BGR ·
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    I would take it off the list of possible venues if they don't have enough rooms or other hotels close by to accommodate guests. I would not want to stay in a tent at all after a wedding.

    Our venue is two hours from us, further for family, but we're treating it like a mini destination wedding as the majority of guests would be traveling no matter what, and while we listed camp grounds on our website, it's because some family might choose to pull campers or their RVs down (venue is in the mountains and there's so much to do. We also have a hotel that would accommodate all guests if they choose with a block that doesn't require people to drive two and from the reception or ceremony.

    Consider the fact that people usually induldge much more in richer foods and alcohol at weddings, and I would not want my guests staying somewhere without plumbing where they could be comfortable, take a shower, or even brush their teeth.
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  • K
    Devoted July 2018
    Kena ·
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    2 hours isn't that bad. Some people drive an hour to work so.... You just may have to consider blocking off hotels for your guest to get ready in or stay the night... It's no different from a destination wedding
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  • J
    Dedicated June 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    I live 1.5-2 hours from my entire family so they will all be traveling that to attent my wedding. I’ve set up a hotel block and transportatio. if it’s people who love you they will do it!
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  • M
    Dedicated November 2018
    mimi ·
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    This is no big deal at all! Book the venue, it sounds wonderful. BTW, as someone who's lived all over CA for 40+ years, hearing people describe a 2 hour drive as a destination has really made me smile this morning. It takes me 2 hours just to get "across" LA when I go to visit my family . Half of my neighbors here in my little suburb outside Sac spend 2 hours each way just to get to their jobs in the bay area. Even when I lived up in a tiny little town in the mountains, it took me an hour and a half just to get my kids to school in the "big" town [2000 people, ooh] 30 miles away thanks to windy roads Smiley smile

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  • starsinwaves
    VIP November 2018
    starsinwaves ·
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    I don't think two hours is bad at all. It's close enough where people can drive back after if they want, or they can choose to stay in a hotel nearby. I think you're fine.

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  • K
    Expert May 2018
    K ·
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    I don’t think two hours is too far of a drive, especially since you have transportation provided to your guests opting to stay in a hotel for the night. I would personally choose to have my wedding start in the afternoon, so that guests would have plenty of time to drive in and get settled into their rooms.

    Does that hotel offer room blocks? It may be a good idea to block off rooms so ensure your guests will have accommodations for the night.
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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    I live 2 hrs from my FH. Everyone coming to our wedding will be diving 70 min -95 min. About 20% of our guests will be driving 2-4 hrs or flying in.
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    MaltedMilk ·
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    I love road trips so yes I would totally attend. (Two hours is nothing to me in terms of driving, though.)

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  • K
    Dedicated November 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Book the venue if you’re happy with it! If your guests prefer to not make the 2 hour drive the day of the wedding, they can find accommodations close by.
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  • PrettyinPink
    Expert March 2018
    PrettyinPink ·
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    Not at all. I'm in VA and planning my wedding (happening the end of this month) in SC. All of my family is traveling from Virginia, Colorado, Florida, etc.

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  • C
    Devoted November 2023
    Crystal ·
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    30 minutes is tops for me and that's for a reception.
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  • rica
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    rica ·
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    For family or a close friend, I would plan on having a few drinks and getting a hotel room anyways, so I wouldn’t mind the drive.
    For a relative that was obligated to invite me, I might decline a 2 hour drive, but you don’t want those relatives anyways.
    I don’t think two hours is a huge deal, but more than that might get to be too much.
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  • M
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I drive 3 hours just to see my family for easter sunday, 4th of july, mothers day etc. I took my 10 month old across the country for my best friend's wedding. When you really want to be somewhere, you make it happen. And dont you want to be surrounded by people who really want to be at your wedding? 😊
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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    Be prepared for people to leave earlier than they might if it was closer. If your wedding is on a Saturday that may not be that much of an issue but if it’s a Sunday, people may not go or will leave early.
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  • NVV2B
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    NVV2B ·
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    I am personally pretty annoyed when I have to drive that far for a wedding. If I was really close to you - I would attend the ceremony and part of the reception - but then I would have to leave to go back home to take care of my dogs.

    Guests with pets, or children are either going to have to pay for all the gas to drive there and back, and for childcare for a few hours or leave their pets at home for a few hours (not a problem for the pets). OR they have to make more long term arrangements for their pets, children and then drive up there, pay for a hotel, drive back... etc.

    If this is your dream venue - and the only way you can make it work price wise - then book it. But realize that it is very inconvenient for your guests and many will choose not to attend or to leave early.

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