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Jennifer
Beginner December 2018

Is 8 too many Bridesmaids

Jennifer, on January 5, 2018 at 9:15 AM Posted in Planning 0 42

I am having a hard time deciding who i want to cut from my wedding party if 8 is too many bridesmaids. Is that too many? 2 of the 16 attendants are Junior's technically so maybe that helps my numbers. But am i crazy in wanted 8 girls to stand up?

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Latest activity by Future Mrs B, on January 6, 2018 at 6:36 PM
  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    In my opinion, yes. That;'s a lot of opinions you're going to have to deal with.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
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    Yeah, I think its a lot. Its also a lot of gifts to purchase. Adds up quick.

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  • COWS
    Devoted January 2016
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    To me it's too many, but if they are your closest people then its fine. I had 6 and in hindsight wish I only had 2 (my sister and SIL).

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  • jcdb
    Dedicated October 2018
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    I have 7 so I hope not! Four are from out of town so their only job is really to show up in what I ask them to wear. I’m also kind of keeping it simple in terms of picking out dresses since everyone is spread out. I picked the color, length, and fabric from azazie and everyone is picking their own dress. (Well only 5 are. I also have a man on my side and a girl who doesn’t wear dresses so I found them button downs that match the color swatch to wear instead)
    im not anticipating issues dealing with a lot of different opinions like the previous commenter suggested but that might just be because of my particular friends. My MOH will take the lead on the bachelorette party so she might have to deal with it more than me.
    If you are having trouble removing anybody from the party, I say do what you want to do.
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  • Jacks
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    That's a lot of people to organize!

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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
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    Can you afford gifts for all 8? RD invites for them and their SOs? Flowers for that many? Paying for hair and makeup if you’re requiring it?

    It’s a lot and costs add up quickly the more you have.
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  • Maria
    Master June 2018
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    8 is on the bigger side but you’re hardly breaking records. Just make sure you’re actually close with everyone and consider your budget.
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  • E&M
    Master July 2016
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    If you're close to all 8 of them and couldn't imagine getting married with them standing up with you, then no. But if you're asking certain people to make both bride and groom sides even, then I would say yes.

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  • Mrs.Sanok
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    I think so yes. But that may only be because I do not have 8 friends that I feel like I want standing up there with me. I had a hard enough time trying to decide a third person so that my FH and my sides match.

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  • Kelly
    Dedicated October 2018
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    It's your wedding and your choice but for me that would seem like a lot. As others have said, make sure it's within your budget because you will have to buy gifts, invite them and SOs to the rehearsal dinner, etc.
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  • Nicole
    Just Said Yes October 2018
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    Congratulations on your engagement! I️ recently got engaged as well and it is such an exciting time! Something that helped my fiancé and I was think of ten years from now when you look at pictures... are you 100 percent confident everyone in your party will be people you have relationships with, that when you are having a break down you’ll be able to call them. Are they friends just in your season of life right now.. or are they women that have stood next to you at your worst?
    We went from having 5 on each side to 3... granted we are having a more intimate wedding.

    Congrats once again! It’s sooo exciting!
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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
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    For me, yes. Also be sure you're not asking too early. Don't ask them any sooner than like 9-10 months before. Once you ask and the agree, they are the only ones that can change that. You can't dismiss them if anything goes wrong.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted October 2018
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    I will preface this with saying I asked my bridesmaids earlier than WW recommends, and while I fully understand that things can change, it has so far worked for me, and I'm glad I did it this way.


    I have 7, and to my surprise everything has moved seamlessly so far. I went into it with a very open mind, understanding that not all of them will be able to show up to things at the same time, and that they are all in very different points in there life, so what works for one, may not work for the others. The only "downside" I've encountered so far is that I want to pay for hair and makeup, I want us to have flannels, because we're having a bonfire after the wedding and I want them to be warm plus I love cheesy photos, and I want to give them each individual and personal gifts. 💸💸

    What's helped me so far, is that I've already started purchasing some of their gifts, so it's not a huge financial burden all at once, and I've been able to take advantage of sales because I've had so much time. I'm also letting them choose their dress, based off of the color (which we all agreed on) and length that I've picked- much easier because getting 7 women to agree on one dress could be super difficult! My BM's have also jokingly expressed that they're happy that there are so many, because splitting the cost of things between 7 people could be much more affordable than trying to pay for things with just one other person, which I hadn't considered but can definitely agree with from my own experiences!
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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
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    For me personally, that is too many. But if you can't imagine getting married without them all there and you can afford gifts, RD, etc for all of them then go for it.

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  • Mrs. Haug
    Devoted June 2018
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    That would be too many for me but have you already asked them?
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  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
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    I have 8 and it's a lot. Between helping pick out their dresses, to paying for gifts, to getting an extra hotel room for the girls that want to have a girls night the night before the wedding, it adds up quickly. 5 of mine are sisters/FSIL and 3 are friends. FH has 8 groomsmen including a junior. We just couldn't think of cutting anyone,so we made it work. It all depends on what you're comfortable with, your relationship with those people, and how much you can afford in terms of WP gifts. We are going to be about breaking a thousand for WP gifts not including the extra hotel room.
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  • Red Queen
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    I think unless you're having a huge wedding, it's too many. At some point, people who aren't asked to be a bridesmaid are going to feel left out!

    But hey, if you really are close to so many people and can pay for it all, enjoy.

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  • Linda
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    I had 6 plus my maid of honor so a total of 7. My girls really werent a headache but I still wish i would of kept it at 5. like some of the others have mentioned. It gets expensive when you think of the gifts you will buy them

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
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    I have 10, and it's been wonderful. It will get expensive in regards to gifts and stuff, but we're not having professional HMU and our rehearsal dinner is already paid for. It was genuinely important for me to have all 10 of them be bridesmaids, so it's worth it to save up for their gifts. It's just a matter of personal preference.

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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
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    Totally a personal preference. I have 7, and I've had no issues. I think it depends on your bridal party tbh. Mine is full of chill,laid back friends who literally tell me they will show up in whatever I pick without arguing. Yes, not everyone is able to make it to all events but it's totally fine. If i had people who disliked each other or argued or were overly opinionated it would be an issue. I am paying for all of them to get hair and makeup done and I already got them small personal gifts. The beauty stuff will be expensive, but I'm appreciative that they took the time to buy dresses and be there for me.

    To simply my BM dress experience, I used Weddington way. I gave them a color and length criteria and told them to pick what they want. Most of them went individually or ordered online and we've had no issues.

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