Is 4 years too soon to plan a vow renewal?

If you didn't have a ceremony last year, I see nothing wrong with having a ceremony in 5 years.

How about holding off a year and doing your vow renewal at 5 years? Unless doing it on your 20th dating anniversary means something very special to you. IMHO if someone invited me to their 4 year vow renewal I'd wonder why they couldn't wait the extra year for the 5. Lol. A couple I know actually did a vow renewal after their one year anniversary....I thought that was a bit over the top, but vow renewals mean different things to different people and you have a right to celebrate how you want no matter what year it is!

If you did a vow renewal at 4 years maybe it is something more private that you could do like on a beach somewhere in a tropical destination (or whatever destination you prefer). I wouldn't do some huge wedding type event, unless as KitandKaboodle said, you didn't really have a big thing last year.

However, 4 years out is WAY too early to start planning something. You would not be able to secure a venue until at most probably 2 years out. When we looked at venues 2 years out they didn't take us very seriously...four years they'd just laugh and tell you to call them in a couple years.

Relax, and put your energy toward something else right now.

I definitely misunderstood the crucial question you asked in your post. I agree with HIH 3/4 years is early to be planning a vow renewal....you can definitely start planning a vow renewal 2 years before the date if you can't wait that long. I booked my venue a little over 2 years and I locked in the 2015 pricing. Same with a few vendors I've spoken too, if I book now I will pay 2015 rates for my wedding in 2017. And also in agreeance with HIH. Most vendor will not take you as seriously if your event is 2 years out. I've gotten suprised looks and "Oh you're planning way early!" So be ready to get those comments from everyone if you plan ahead like we did lol. But enjoy being married!! Don't stress with planning your vow renewal right now, enjoy the married life!

We're doing a renewal for our first married anniversary. It will be us and our 6 best friends and our kids. It's what we wanted to begin with and we let FMIL sway us away from it.

I do think you're starting really early. I'd say maybe take some time to just gather ideas that you like over time. That way when you start doing to heavy lifting when it comes to planning you have a clear idea of what you want.

I say do whatever you want. You have your reasons and if people have a problem with it well that's on them. We are planning a vow renewal at 2 years. Our wedding was more of an elopement and only 5 of my family members were there. We have big families and really wanted everyone to be there but we didn't have the funds for a big wedding. So our vow renewal will also be a chance for all of our family to get together and celebrate our marraige.

It's definitely too early to plan, as in securing a venue. Future Mrs.D is right; live your life now, start planning a renewal in early 2018.