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Is $100 in poor taste for a wedding gift?

Elle, on October 18, 2025 at 9:11 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I’m attending a destination wedding for a close cousin of mine. I had always thought $100 was the standard wedding gift, and I just recently learned that it’s actually $100 per person minimum? (Oops) When I got married in 2023 I think I received $100 from most couples and felt that was very generous.

We have spent a ton of money already to attend this wedding. This is not the fault of the bride or groom and we could have chosen to stay home - I’m just listing some expenses to paint a picture: $1200 on their preferred hotel for 4 nights, $500 on plane tickets, $250 car rental, $250 suit rental, $700 to board our dogs. That’s $2900 (again, we could have chosen not to go) but now another $200 cash gift on top of that is just going to hit so hard.
But I don’t want to look cheap if everyone else is giving larger gifts. Any advice? I guess at this point what’s another $200 right?

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Veronica · on October 19, 2025 at 7:31 AM
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I think $100 is fine especially when you've already spent so much money. Your cousin has to understand you along with all of the other guests have already spent a ton of money to attend her wedding since she decided to have a destination wedding.
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Alisha · on October 19, 2025 at 7:42 AM
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I think $100 is fine. Considering that you already spent money on a destination wedding. When I got married the monetary gifts varied from person to person and I was grateful for the gifts. So you will be fine giving that amount.
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LM · on October 20, 2025 at 11:43 AM
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In many circles where the per person amount is more, guests don't traditionally gift for a destination wedding. I might do so if there are multiple days of events held by the couple, in addition to a rehearsal/ welcome dinner.
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Wedding · on October 24, 2025 at 5:33 AM
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Honestly, $100 is totally fine especially for a destination wedding. You’ve already spent nearly $3k just to be there, which is a huge gift in itself. Most couples getting married know that guests spend a lot to attend and aren’t expecting big gifts on top of that.
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YARET · on October 24, 2025 at 4:28 PM
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Gift what you feel from the heart. As corny as that sounds, don’t gift them $200 because that’s the standard or everyone else is doing that. They should be understanding of everyone’s finances and the fact that you made the effort and spent the money to attend when you could have simply not gone and spend that money on their wedding means so much more.
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Future Boston Terriers · on October 24, 2025 at 11:35 PM
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I think that is ample and, I feel the bride and groom should be grateful for everything you do, and understand a gift is a gift no matter how big or small. It comes from love
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