Is $100 in poor taste for a wedding gift?

I think $100 is fine especially when you've already spent so much money. Your cousin has to understand you along with all of the other guests have already spent a ton of money to attend her wedding since she decided to have a destination wedding.

Honestly, $100 is totally fine especially for a destination wedding. You’ve already spent nearly $3k just to be there, which is a huge gift in itself. Most couples getting married know that guests spend a lot to attend and aren’t expecting big gifts on top of that.

I don’t think $100 is in poor taste at all, especially for a destination wedding. Most people take into account the total cost of attending - and you’ve already spent a lot. Gifts are never meant to put guests in a financial strain, and most couples understand that traveling, hotels, rentals, pet boarding, etc. add up quickly. There’s no universal “minimum” and definitely no requirement that it has to be $100 per person. Give whatever feels comfortable for you. Many guests at destination weddings give smaller gifts or even just a card, because their presence is already a big expense. Your cousin will likely just be happy you’re there to celebrate with them. Don’t stress about matching what others might give - everyone’s situation is different.

I wouldn’t stress too much about matching some supposed “per person minimum.” Gift amounts vary a lot by region, social circle, and personal circumstances. There really isn’t a universal rule.

In a destination wedding especially, most couples understand that guests are already spending a significant amount just to attend. Flights, hotels, pet boarding, and time off work are real costs, and your presence is often considered part of the gift. Many couples explicitly say so.

If $200 feels uncomfortable after already spending nearly $3,000, it’s completely reasonable to give what fits your budget. A thoughtful card with $100–150 from both of you, or even sticking with $100 if that’s what feels right, isn’t cheap—it’s practical. Most couples aren’t tallying gifts; they’re just happy people made the effort to celebrate with them.

The best guideline is: give what you can comfortably afford without resentment. Weddings shouldn’t put guests under financial strain, especially when you’re already traveling to be there.