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Dedicated October 2018

Involving nieces and nephews

jcdb, on November 11, 2017 at 6:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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Does anyone have any unique ideas for involving kids aged 5-16 in the wedding ceremony?

My FH has 1 nephew and 4 nieces ranging in age from 5 to 16 plus a step-nephew with special needs who is 20. We are planning to ask the youngest girl to be a flower girl and the two boys to be ushers. We are trying to also find some things the older girls can do to make them involved like handing out programs, etc.

We already are having a larger wedding party than I would personally have wanted so I don't want to just title them junior bridesmaids.

What have others done to involve kids too young to be in wedding parties but too old to be toddling up the aisle?

We have considered having a 10 year old niece who is FH's god daughter be the ring bearer since we are having her brother be an usher probably. We also thought about doing one of those wedding app video services like wedding mix and asking the older girls to handle the video of the ceremony but that may be asking too much of them.

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Latest activity by Janel, on November 12, 2017 at 7:33 AM
  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    There is honestly no need to involve them. Every person you add is more money and more stress, and if your BP is already bigger than you expected, coordinating six more people whore not really necessary is just adding to the controlled chaos of the day for no real reason.

    Let them be guests.

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  • E
    Savvy April 2019
    Erica ·
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    Is it a church wedding? If it is you could ask them to read? Or to take the gifts up?

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  • jcdb
    Dedicated October 2018
    jcdb ·
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    Ceremony is right on site immediately prior to reception. We are currently planning on both of our godmothers to do quick readings. But not religious or a mass of any sort so no gifts to be brought up at any point.

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  • jcdb
    Dedicated October 2018
    jcdb ·
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    Celia, I'd agree with you but I'm trying to keep the peace with the in laws at least for now. Trying to pick my battles lol. They are actually really great so I don't mind including them in some way but just trying to figure out a nonclunky way of doing so.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    So you have a bigger bridal party than you wanted and two guest readers and you want to add six kids because your inlaws want you to add them?

    This isn't your inlaws' wedding.

    "We've decided that we're not including any children in the ceremony." The end.

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  • Katie M.
    Devoted June 2019
    Katie M. ·
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    If you are giving parents/grandparents flowers could they be in charge of handing them out? It might be too stressful to include them but completely understand wanting to include them. I have 6 cousins and 3 are in the wedding party but I do not have anything for the other 3 to do.

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  • Janel
    Super September 2018
    Janel ·
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    I've only seen younger nieces and nephews included as FG and RB. Older children are usually not included in the wedding so I don't know why that would cause drama.

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