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Involving kids in engagement photos

Elizabeth, on March 28, 2018 at 3:10 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 14
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I have two kids from a previous marriage and was wondering if it would be weird to include them in my engagement photos, it wouldn't be all of them just a few. Also wondering if it matters that their dad is still in their lives

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    Dedicated June 2018
    Amber ·
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    I don't think it's weird. My FH has 3 girls - we took some pictures with them. Not all, we have plenty of ones just by ourselves. But we took a few. For us, including the girls helped them feel like they were wanted and loved. They live with their mom currently so I am the outsider. Including them helped them process me coming into their lives a bit more since I dont get to spend a lot of time with them. It was a good thing for us to do. Honestly, I don't have a good reason why you shouldn't involve your children!
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  • Beecham2Barrows
    VIP December 2020
    Beecham2Barrows ·
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    I was considering this but when I look at all of our pictures our kids are involved! I think we should both let this be a special moment for ourselves and our partners ❤️
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    Mim ·
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    Engagement pictures are to commemorate your engagement, your children aren't the ones who are engaged. I would keep the pictures to just the two of you. I do think that family pictures after the wedding would be nice
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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
    FutureMrs.L ·
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    We took some with my son ( maybe 3-4) but mainly they are of FH and I. One of my favorite pictures is of the three of us.

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    Expert June 2018
    Jamie ·
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    I would take pictures with them. This is about how you are becoming a family. The day he says I do he is also saying he will be a stepfather.
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  • Powers2
    Master April 2018
    Powers2 ·
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    We had my DD from my first marriage in a few E pics. Her dad is still very much involved.

    I am not sure why it would be weird?

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    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    When you add your kids to engagement photos they become family photos. Your photographer may charge you differently because it’s not just an engagement photo shoot if kids are there. If you want to kill two birds with one stone and get both types of photos, it would definitely be convenient, but personally I wouldn’t call the family pics my engagement pics. (I am a mom too)
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    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    Oh yeah adding that it totally doesn’t matter that her dad is involved, mine’s dad is, they have family pics with their family, we have them with ours. She just has two families. No big deal Smiley smile
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  • Bobbi
    Dedicated September 2018
    Bobbi ·
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    We are having my kids in a few of the pictures. Like a pp said, you are becoming a family. Our photographer actually suggested doing a few pictures with the kids to make them feel important too. It's a big event in their lives as well.

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  • Rachel
    Dedicated September 2018
    Rachel ·
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    My photographer actually suggested bringing my son along for our engagement pics. Most of our pics are just us, with two or three pics with all three of us. I think it’s a perfect balance. And it shows my son that he is involved in the process too.
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    Devoted September 2018
    Tara ·
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    Bring them along, and take some photos with them. Then you can also get some couple shots.
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  • Red Queen
    VIP May 2018
    Red Queen ·
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    My son was in our engagement photos. He calls my fiance dad even though he has a bio father.

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  • R
    Expert September 2018
    R ·
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    I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together. We did a mixture of pictures with and without the kids. His dad is a big part of his life, but I look at it as we are uniting our family.

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    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm doing my engagements tomorrow & my photographer (who is a family friend) said that by having my daughter involved in SOME of the pictures, we are showing that we are becoming a family. Even though her dad is in her life, my fiance is her bonus daddy & loves her like his own. Plus she's going to be a big sister in February as well so she plays a huge part in all of our lives & we want her to know that this marriage is an important event for her life as well because it means she has another father figure to love & help guide her through life.

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