I have two kids from a previous marriage and was wondering if it would be weird to include them in my engagement photos, it wouldn't be all of them just a few. Also wondering if it matters that their dad is still in their lives
I don't think it's weird. My FH has 3 girls - we took some pictures with them. Not all, we have plenty of ones just by ourselves. But we took a few. For us, including the girls helped them feel like they were wanted and loved. They live with their mom currently so I am the outsider. Including them helped them process me coming into their lives a bit more since I dont get to spend a lot of time with them. It was a good thing for us to do. Honestly, I don't have a good reason why you shouldn't involve your children!
Engagement pictures are to commemorate your engagement, your children aren't the ones who are engaged. I would keep the pictures to just the two of you. I do think that family pictures after the wedding would be nice
When you add your kids to engagement photos they become family photos. Your photographer may charge you differently because it’s not just an engagement photo shoot if kids are there. If you want to kill two birds with one stone and get both types of photos, it would definitely be convenient, but personally I wouldn’t call the family pics my engagement pics. (I am a mom too)
We are having my kids in a few of the pictures. Like a pp said, you are becoming a family. Our photographer actually suggested doing a few pictures with the kids to make them feel important too. It's a big event in their lives as well.
My photographer actually suggested bringing my son along for our engagement pics. Most of our pics are just us, with two or three pics with all three of us. I think it’s a perfect balance. And it shows my son that he is involved in the process too.
I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together. We did a mixture of pictures with and without the kids. His dad is a big part of his life, but I look at it as we are uniting our family.
I'm doing my engagements tomorrow & my photographer (who is a family friend) said that by having my daughter involved in SOME of the pictures, we are showing that we are becoming a family. Even though her dad is in her life, my fiance is her bonus daddy & loves her like his own. Plus she's going to be a big sister in February as well so she plays a huge part in all of our lives & we want her to know that this marriage is an important event for her life as well because it means she has another father figure to love & help guide her through life.