Megan
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Inviting Work People

Megan, on November 22, 2021 at 3:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
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I would love some unbiased thoughts on a situation I am in,


I have a good relationship with the CEO of the company and an absolutely fabulous relationship with my direct boss but not the one other Partner at my job. The one Partner is very two-faced and acts like we are friends but then says things about me to my immediate boss for why I can't get a raise. Now the problem, I wasn't planning on anyone because of this and was okay with my decision. Today, I found out the CEO of my company is paying for all my fiancé and my wine visits for our Honeymoon.

We are going to; Healdsburg, Napa, Calistoga and it will be about half our honeymoon. By that I mean about 12 wineries. I know I really need to extend the invites to all three but it truly feels like a hard pill to swallow for the one Partner.

Would love thoughts on this from others.

Thanks in advance Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Jacks, on November 24, 2021 at 2:27 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I think if you’re inviting the other two, inviting the third is really necessary. Maybe they’ll decline, but even if they accept, you really won’t spend much time with them at your wedding. You can also stick with your plan of not inviting any of them. It’s a nice gesture that the CEO is doing that for your honeymoon, but it doesn’t require you inviting them to the wedding.
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  • Megan
    Dedicated May 2022
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    Very true, my mom is pressing me to invite them, and I see it from both sides. Thanks for your thoughts
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  • Heather
    Expert November 2021
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    I agree with Sarah! VERY nice gesture, but you are not obliged to invite them Smiley smile To spare everyone's feelings at work I would suggest you invite all three or none at all.

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  • Megan
    Dedicated May 2022
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    Thanks! This is all good to know! ☺️
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I would not invite anyone you do not have a close relationship with , regardless of who they are. The CEO you like, go for it. The two faced one, don’t invite them. No need to invite anyone else either unless you socialize outside working hours.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    I’m looking at it from the flipside— you do NOT need to invite someone just because of a gift! A boss with a good relationship may well just want to get you a nice gift , not thinking that they need to be involved in the day, but just to do a nice thing for you because they appreciate you. My bosses at the time gave us a REALLY nice gift (including a 10 course tasting menu at a Michelin star restaurant), and they weren’t invited to the wedding, and I appreciated the gift but it didn’t make me regret not inviting them— I didn’t want anything to do with work at my wedding! Hah. My point is, I don’t think it’s necessary to change your plan of not inviting just because of a gift.
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  • Megan
    Dedicated May 2022
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    Very true, I have two coworkers I would love to invite as well because we are close outside work.
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  • Megan
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    Megan ·
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    Thank you for sharing! That is very true, I might not invite any of them then. Thanks everyone for your thoughts, it truly has helped me make a decision now
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  • Jacks
    Master November 2054
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    I would really do all or none. At this point it's a business decision, not a social one.

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  • Chloe
    Devoted February 2022
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    I agree, it's not about friendship, it's purely career oriented. I would just invite all three.
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  • Megan
    Dedicated May 2022
    Megan ·
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    Very true.
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  • Megan
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    That might be the deciding factor at this point
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  • Ava
    Savvy October 2022
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    Don’t invite the other partner. It’s your wedding and you have that right. I would personally feel uncomfortable having my co worker or boss pay for the honeymoon. I actually wouldn’t accept the gift. This is tricky. I wouldn’t invite any co-workers but if you are, only invite the two you want there.
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  • Jacks
    Master November 2054
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    Respectfully, I disagree. Your wedding is one day. You'll be working there for who knows how long. Every day.

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