Inviting: Where do you draw the line?

If you are planning on NOT inviting coworkers when you talk about your wedding you need to start saying its just an intimate wedding with our family & long time friends due to financial issues. I'm sure they will get the hint but seriously you can't invite every single person you know.Good luck & don't worry so much

I am having this same problem..just my side of the guest list was getting out of control mainly because of the coworkers. My fiance's dad finally said to ask yourself if that person who you are debating on would invite you to an event on an equally personal level. That finally helped me with the cut list. I was worried about offending people as well but people aren't going to be offended..everyone knows how expensive weddings are and you are the bride and should invite only who you want. I agree with the other posts..start nonchalantly talking about how your wedding is going to be farther away and small with only your closest friends invited. Good luck!

Lil bit for me....its like my mom, my real dad,and my pap even suggested one person they just keep adding people. and its like people who THEY know! its like ok, we dont know this person. PLUS since we made a few mistakes on a few envelopes only have on envelope left (but extra invites) so its like i HOPE we dont need anymore outer envelopes. either that or just stick them in the inside enve. that they wouldnt even know.......well just tell the people that you think are leading on (or expect to get a invite) that you are sorry for leading them on, but we have a certain amount of people we can invite. or just flat out tell them no (but in a nice way)

I am having the same problem. The vast majority of people on our guest list are from my side. FH doesn't have a lot of close friends & most of his family won't be able to travel here for the wedding. I am active in many things - volunteering at my daughter's elementary, training and teaching at our taekwondo school, taking college classes, used to be active in a local MOMS club... I have tons of acquaintances, but need to narrow down the friends close enough to invite. I have pretty much decided that I won't invite anyone from my daughter's school, although I am close with her teachers (it's a combined 4th/5th class w/ 2 teachers), the librarian and my Book Fair co-chair, and a couple of PTA moms. I just feel like I can't invite a few of them without inviting a dozen, plus husbands that I don't know. As for TKD, I will invite my Master, and maybe one other man who I train and co-teach with and his family, since his 17 yr old son also trains with us. It's hard to draw the line!

I am kind of in the same boat, especially since I am getting ready to graduate next semester and I'm sure that I will have lost contact with alot of my friends from college here (I'm not the best with staying in touch with people I don't see too often). Anyways, I think the best thing to do in this situation is make an extensive list of announcements. They should take the hint but at the same time they shouldn't feel left out because you made sure to think of them. I know other people have had a short explanation with their invites such as "As much as we would love all of our friends and family come we cannot afford it at this time. Thanks for your understanding" or something along those lines. Also, more announcements equals more possible gifts for you!

We're limiting our guest list to family and closest friends that we're in touch with on a regular basis. I had one couple who we have a casual relationship with assuming they would be invited, I had to tell them no, but that we'd love to get together with them before or after the wedding.

When all of my friends and family found out about our engagement every asked if they were coming.. I don't have a problem saying no, so I did. "No, you are not going to be invited to the wedding. My FH ans I feel it should be a moment shared between our closest family and friends. Sorry. We will have a party later that week to which you will be invited to share this joining of the tow families." I so far have not ran into a problem with this. Just stick to the people you truly want there, don't let any one guilt you into inviting them or anyone else.

Good luck!!

What im doing is if i haven't known them or physically hung out with them in over a year...they don't get an invite. also if they have not been with their GF/BF for over a year they don't get a plus one. im lucky bc all of FH's friends he wants to invite are in the bridal party lmao! WOOT for me!