Inviting to your wedding

My husband and I paid for our wedding entirely ourselves but we allowed our parents to invite their friends. However I was very strict with The amount of people that I allowed to each of them to invite otherwise they would’ve just gone free range and done whatever they wanted

We kind of did. We're having his mom give us a list but ultimately we have the final say so because we're paying for the majority of it.

It would be nice to ask if you have extra spots on your list, but I don't think you have to. My parents are contributing a little to our wedding and I asked (most of their asks were already on my list but we ended up cutting the ones who weren't because of covid) but my fiance's parents aren't contributing and we didn't ask. Mostly because he has a huge family and we knew the list would be way longer than our limit. So we just decided to skip that hassle altogether. Also skipped parents' of friends due to our guest list limit, but we had a few on our original list.

We paid for 95% of the wedding ourselves, but we did ask both set up parents if there was anyone specific they wanted us to invite.

My parents are paying for a majority of the wedding and my FH's parents have not contributed or mentioned anything about contributing so we didn't extend the offer to them to invite any extra people. But his family is very large so we already had a long list of people and we're really trying to keep our guest list below 150 people.

My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, we are allowing our parents to invite guests, however, we get final approval.

It is not uncommon for parents who are contributing to the cost of the wedding to ask to invite their friends. Other than that, it is at the sole discretion of the bride and groom if other people (i.e. non-contributing parents or family) can invite guests. Personally, I would not offer your MIL to invite guests as she has not burdened you with such a request and if she does take you up on the offer, you’ll be out of pocket. You’re under no obligation to ask her unless you’d like to as a goodwill gesture.

We offered each set of parents to invite 10 couples that they wanted to invite (outside of family/family friends that we were already planning on inviting). This was before either set offered to help with our wedding expenses. Both sets ended up adding extra friends outside of the 10 couples, but they paid extra (on top of what they were already helping with) for those guests.

Originally, when we planned for a wedding with several guests, we did not ask our parents if they wanted us to invite anyone of their choice.

We are paying ourselves and not inviting parents' friends unless we are super close to them anyway.

Definitely not! Ye who pays picks who comes 😂

We’re paying 100% and invited our closest friends and family who we wanted to be present. So, no, we didn’t ask our parents for a guest list.

We paid 100%, including lots of our big families. We asked our parents if they would like 2 couples each whom we had not listed, and each parent chose a long term friend who was a business partner, and their spouses. We knew them very well, so it was fine.

My mom is splitting the venue with us, and my FH's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. After we already made our guest list out, we asked both my mom, and my FH's parents for a list of people. We just did this to make sure we didn't leave anyone out! We did make it clear to them that not everyone on their list may be invited, and that it was purely to check and make sure we had everyone we DID want there.

Bot my parents and my FH parents are helping pay for our wedding, when we first started planning we didn't know my FIL's would offer to assist in paying but we still included some of their friends we knew we would want on the guest list, as they are friends we see often and people my FH would want there was well. So if your Fiance didn't include people when you made the list chances are he doesn't consider them that important in his life.

When we spoke with his parents they then informed us they were "obviously helping" which we had no prior indication of, and they only added one other couple that we didn't include, but said they may have other people they want to add. We informed them 150 guests was our MAX amount of guests we'd want and we were at 120 so they could do what they wish with that info. If you do ask, I would suggest approaching it this way. Pick a max amount of guests you want, if your current guest list is under that I would just say "Hey, here's who (fiance) said we should invite, we do have x amount of spots still open, is there anyone else you wish we would add?"

My FH's guest list is far larger than mine, as he's close with both his dad and his moms side where I am only close with my moms side so we're eliminating half my family right there.

I'm inviting my bestfriends dad, step mom and step sister, I spent a lot of time at their house growing up and still do. They are people I love and consider family so I wanted to include them.

I would also add, that you do get final say, despite who's paying. Since my FIL's offered to pay for their guests, they thought we should include my FH's cousin's fiance, I put my foot down with that and told them I was putting my foot down with it. I don't like him, I don't agree with their relationship, my FH hates him, and we don't want him anywhere near on the happiest day of OUR lives.