Inviting themselves

Lol well I mean if you have the funds for it and like the person, then go for it lol. I’ve had to say no to people because I don’t want them there 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm so dreading this...we're having a "small-ish" wedding with 75 people when we could EASILY invite 300 with all the friends and relatives...my one reassurance is that the people we aren't inviting all live out of town so it's very unlikely I'll have anyone ask in person.

View Quoted Comment It’s the people who are on the line. People we know from our lines of work so we wouldn’t have thought to invite them but don’t necessarily dislike them lol. But now I’m thinking “do I follow proper etiquette and give them a plus one” because now there’s 2 extra guests. It’s a mess but it will all end up fine haha.

Yeah, this issue can definitely spiral out of control fast. I'd definitely practice saying, "Aw, you know, unfortunately, we have limited space for our venue and aren't able to add anyone extra. Oh hey, before I forget, did you hear what Andrew said in the meeting yesterday?" And try to stick with the subject change.

Additionally, if these extra people that you've now added have significant others, then yes, you should definitely invite their partners by name. If they're truly single (provided they don't have to travel to your wedding or will know other people at the wedding), then you don't have to give them a plus one.

I had no problem saying no. We picked our venue because we loved it but also because it was small and allowed us more of the intimate feel we wanted. Our guest list was chosen early and we went to the limit we were allowed at the beginning. Thankfully we had no surprise guests but we also didn't give out any wedding info to anyone not invited.

So awkward but I hear you!