Inviting the spouse of the person in our bridal party

I'm confused, why would you not include the person in the bridal party on the invitation? You should address it to him, his wife, and their kids

I included spouses and families in ours. They knew they were in the party ahead of time, so I addressed it either Mrs. and Mrs. John Smith or The Smith Family

I did the general both names. To me, you still have to formally invite bridal party. It would be a little weird to address it to one spouse and not the other.

Do the invite to whomever you are inviting even if they are or are not in the bridal party

Yes, you would address it to them all. Bridal party members still get an invite and are included in the overall headcount as that is the number you give to your caterer.

Also, don't forget to include yourself and your fiance in the final headcount for the caterer!

The invitation should be addressed to everyone in the household that you want to invite. I would assume you want your bridal party to attend the wedding so yes, you should invite them. If you want them to have food, you should also include them (and you, your FS, and vendors) in your headcount.

Got it! Thanks

Include the person and the spouse and their families