Inviting sorority sisters

A lot of my sorority sisters have gotten married and I wasn't invited because I didn't know them very well which I completely understood. I am doing the same at my wedding, if I don't know them very well then I didn't send them an invite and I haven't heard from any of them to ask why they weren't invited so I am assuming they understand.

What pp said. if you're not close, why would you invite. I think most reasonable grown ups aren't offended by this.

I'm only inviting the ones I am still close with (one is in my wedding, two will be guests)

I'm only inviting a handful of my sorority sisters, as I'm just not that close with most of them. My chapter has zero hard feelings about this as no sister has invited everyone. We understand that weddings are expensive and not everyone can have a huge guest list.

Similar to PPs, I'm only inviting two of my sorority sisters, both of whom I plan to ask to be bridesmaids. They're the only ones I keep in touch with regularly. I don't anticipate it being much of a problem, though I could see it maybe being a bigger problem if you're still active and everyone talks to everyone regularly. For instance, one girl who got engaged her senior year said during chapter, I'm inviting all of you to my wedding. And then she didn't. While I found it rude I wasn't personally hurt because we weren't that close.

If someone asks, I'd be honest, the venue didn't have space, there were budget concerns, whatever. I think most adults would understand this, especially if you haven't kept in touch regularly since graduating.

I just invited my close friends, many of who happen to be in my sorority! It's also been like 8 years since I've been in college so this wasn't hard I did make sure to get a great group picture at the wedding!

If it's only 2, I'd probably just invite them to avoid drama.

I only stay in touch with two so that's all I invited to mine

You may be overthinking this. You've already graduated and you're inviting those who are close to you. End of story.

Your wedding is over a year away. Wait awhile and see how many of the girls you still talk to after 9-12 months being out of school.

I remember being in college and thinking "I have 90 girls in my sorority so obviously I'd have to invite all them!" I'm getting married ten years later and am inviting about 15 sisters I still talk to, including 3 in my bridal party! One of my sisters got engaged senior year and married the summer after we graduated, and she only had about ten of our sorority sisters there.

FH was in a fraternity and is inviting only the brothers he still talks to.

When I was in college one of my sorority sisters got married - out of a sorority of about 150 there were only about 10 of us invited. We were the closest to her and she couldn't really have 150 sorority sisters plus the bride and grooms family.

I feel like you're overthinking. Invite the ones that you're closest to. It's not realistic to think that you can have everyone in the sorority, and I'm sure they'll understand that.

I only invited my big, twin, and my twins little. I'm not even inviting my own littles. I just invited the sisters I was closest to.

I am inviting 6 girls from my sorority. 4 are in my bridal party. The other two I've stayed closest with. don't worry about hurting feelings, they will understand you can't have everyone there. Invite those you were actually friends with and see yourself talking to still years from now

You will be amazed at how much less important this seems a year and a half out of college.

I'm only inviting about 10 girls from my sorority (also went to a smaller liberal arts college). I've had sisters get married and wasn't always invited to their weddings. It's not a big deal and you are definitely overthinking this. I wasn't close to all 100 girls in my chapter and wouldn't expect to get a wedding invite from all of them either.

I'm only in close touch with 5 girls & I graduated 4 years ago. To be quite honest, those five I see as my "close friends" vs " my sorority sisters" even though we all share that identity. There's no way I would invite them all and no way I would expect any of them to be offended that they are not invited. I'm not even inviting my big or my little since we talk maybe once a year?

Edit: Just looked at your date. Keep this thought in the back of your mind for awhile and see what your friendships are like in December/January! You may not talk to every girl every day but you should at least have an idea what is going on in their lives and vice versa

Invite who you're still close to, just like any other friend. I'm only inviting 6 women, all of whom I still talk to 4 years later. Some women who I was friendly with but haven't stayed in touch with have gotten married or engaged and while we still have mutual friends we're not inviting each other. No hard feelings on either end!

So here’s a question beyond that scope - do you give a sister a plus one when you know their baby daddy but have never hung out with him and FH doesn’t know him? They just had a kid this year. Our space is extremely limited so where I want to invite a handful of the girls I talk too, i don’t really want to extend a plus one. I’m at the point where space is SO limited I either invite JUST the girls or none at all. :/ obv I don’t want anyone to get super upset and I’d send them an email with a heads up about it as a courtesy.

Annyone deal with THIS?

I'm inviting maybe 6 of my active class of about 40 at the time. It's those people who you really want to be there for your wedding. Don't feel obligated to invite the others, you don't have to and def don't have to feel about it. You can have a huge group of friends but be extra close with just a few and thats perfectly fine.