So, my friends tell me I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be - you all probably will to lol. But basically, my fiance and I both have small families and a relatively small circle of friends. And we have already committed to a 100 person minimum headcount at our venue that we aren't going to be meeting, which is okay (it was cheaper to commit to 100 than the 75 we originally wanted). But basically, since we have room, we're basically free to invite anyone and everyone we want. I want to invite two particular coworkers of mine. Both of them are also engaged - we all got engaged within a month or so of each other, and now my wedding will be in summer 2020 and both of theirs are in Fall 2020.
So I want to invite both of them, because we are friends and I'd like them to be there, but I also happen to know from conversations we've had about our planning adventures, that they have large families and large groups of friends, and are having trouble keeping their headcounts down, so I highly doubt I am going to be getting an invite to either of their weddings, since we aren't that close where I would be near the top of their lists. And i'm fine with that, I understand completely. But I am just worried that if I invite them to mine, it is going to put them in an awkward position, and they'll either feel obligated to invite me to theirs, or feel obligated to decline knowing they won't be sending me an invite back, or just feel like I am fishing for one of their invites or fishing for gifts. None of this is true - I just have the room and would love for them to join me. The more, the merrier. Am I overthinking? Should I just invite who I want to invite?
(if it matters, I work in a big office, and I am so far inviting 1 coworker, who is best friends with one of the coworkers in question, and also my boss, who is friendly with the second coworker in question)
