Inviting some kids

It’s your wedding, so do whatever makes you happy! I personally think that it can come off possibly rude inviting some but not others? The only kids that are invited to mine are those in the bridal party. Tough call to make!

Immediate family or kids in the wedding party are usually ok but inviting some and not others maybe upset some people.

I only have one child coming to my wedding and she's my adopted sister who will be five and our flower girl. There are twenty-two children under sixteen in my family and I am limited to a hundred guests at my venue. I am not giving up twenty of my friends for children who will likely scream and disrupt my ceremony and then be little hellions at the reception!

Depends on whether you care if feelings are hurt. lol We invited family and children that we know VERY well. For example, we go on family vacations with my brother in laws best friends family. They have two little girls that we spend a substantial amount of time with so they are invited. My mom's half sister that lives on the opposite side of the country, I've met/spoken to maybe twice, and have never met her kids did not get an invitation. (The kids, not her.) Not to be rude but cutting more adults that I would like to invite in order to follow some unspoken "children at weddings" etiquette just doesn't fly with me. Do what you want and be ready for push back. Boy did I get it from the half sister... lol

Generally, it’s best to follow the “all kids or no kids rule” to avoid hurt feelings or major drama. Infants are always the exception as they usually need to be with their mothers for breastfeeding. It’s also usually acceptable to have the “no kids” rule except for kids who are in your wedding party.

My FH and I did something like this, but who we invited weren't technically kids; they're teenagers of some of my FH's friends. When we sent out our invitations we addressed them as "The _______ Family" when we wanted to invite the entire household. For the ones where you don't want to invite the children, you can label those "Mr. & Mrs. ________" or their individual names if they are not married.

I think it's totally reasonable to want to include children you are close to and have a relationship with but not include children you haven't met.

You do what you want, but usually the rule of thumb is to invite in groups. So all 2nd cousins or no 2nd cousins, for example.

We invited just immediate family members' kids (so our nieces and nephews, that's it) and that was 11 kids in and of itself).

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We are doing this as well since we have huge families- inviting 1st cousins only, with a couple exceptions. There will be about 18 kids so I'm sure others might wonder why they couldn't bring theirs, but if they ask why I have no problem telling them why lol. We are also addressing invites as "Mr & Mrs ___" and adding "we have reserved __ seats in your honor" to eliminate all confusion about whether their kids are invited.

That’s totally up to you! It’s definitely easier to explain that you’re only inviting children in the bridal party or nieces and nephews. We are doing the same thing. I’m not a fan of children at wedding and quite frankly don’t want to pay for them to possibly act up at the ceremony/reception. We don’t want kids in the future, so we don’t really see the point of inviting them.