Inviting some family, but not others

Also, if it makes a difference - I will possibly see them next month on an overnight stay on my way to another destination.

The extended family on my dad's side is pretty large as well....all of my first cousins have kids in their mid twenties and I don't know who is who other than one family unit to whom I'm close to my second cousins. Those are the only ones I've invited, and left all the others off, inviting just their parents (my first cousins). Had we not done that, it would have added another 20 people easily (not including their S/Os or Plus Ones). Also didn't invite my stepdad's daughter since she's a royal cunt and I haven't seen in her more than twice in ten years.

FMIL has 9 brothers and sisters some half,some step, and they all have kids and some of them won't be invited to the wedding because we just don't see them. If we invited them all it would be more than 30 people just her siblings and their kids forget grandparents or FFIL's family. I think it is fine not to invite all of your family, especially if you arent close

My Dad is the middle child of 12 kids, so if I had invited all of his sibs, (aunts and uncles) and just their children, (first cousins) it would have added another 118 people to my wedding list. Most of my cousins I have not seen in ages, so inviting any of them wasn't even an issue. I know that my Dad is not as close to some of his siblings as he is to others, (some of them also live in far away states and we knew they would not make the trip to come) so I specifically asked my Dad who he would want to be there and he choose 4 of his sibs that he is close too.

I would have to say even if they are family and live farther away, if you haven't stayed in contact or interacted with them for more than a year, it's probably ok to not invite them.

Ok, thanks guys! Makes me feel better. I think I will skip inviting them!

I wouldn't invite. My family is HUGE but I am actually in contact with everyone (we get together once a year) and they all love FH. FHs family is big too. I haven't met half his extended family (in 6yrs of dating) so he doesn't want to invite some of them. He just doesn't know them that well & they don't know me.

PERSONALLY, I think you invite the people you are close to. No apologies, no explanations.

I understand families being big, but IMO if you are inviting some aunts/uncles then invite the rest. You don't have to invite any cousins. You can cut it off there. Then it's straight across, aunts/uncles are the extent of your extended family you would be inviting.