Inviting sister-in-law to bachelorette

Do you want a more personal relationship with her or are you fine with family events only? If you want to develop your relationship, invite her. You're never going to get closer if you don't extend the olive branch.

I say extend the invite to her. I think it would be a nice gesture.

I say invite her but she is grown and can decide if she will get along with and socialize with the other ladies. If you let her bring a friend then everyone should be allowed. I have been to plenty of wedding related events and did not know one person and it was my decision whether or not I chose to interact or not.

I'd err on the side of inviting her, it would be a nice gesture. I don't hang out with my FSIL other than family gatherings, so we are similar. She is not a bridesmaid, but I have invited her to get hair and makeup done with my bridesmaids (her daughters/my nieces will be in the wedding) which I am paying for so she will be included in a way and she was super happy to be invited. We haven't talked about a girls outing yet, but I think I will invite her to that.

I'd invite her. I invited my husband's 4 sisters to my bach. Only 1 was able to go (the other 3 lived out of state) and it was such a beautiful bonding time for both of us, hanging out without family around!

I'd invite her - she can get to know your friends and you can get to know her better! She's about to be part of your family so she's not a semi-rando, and I'm sure she'd appreciate the invite. (If not, she can just politely decline.) And no need to tell her she can bring a friend, you don't need a stranger there.

I say invite her! You're adults, and should all be able to incorporate her into the activities.

I agree with others that it'll be a great bonding experience!

I think if you have a good relationship with her but just don't know her that well, this is a great opportunity to get to know her in a fun, relaxed environment. It sounds like you have a good group of friends, and while they'll enjoy catching up with each other, they'll also be happy to include her into the group (and SIL will also be able to jump in and participate with the group!)

I included my SIL in the bachelorette, showers, etc. and she said looking back she wishes she had done the same! (she got married first, and her and I really hadn't spent much time together until my wedding planning)

I think you should def invite your sister in law!! I had 2 brothers get married, 1 did not include me I was so hurt and the second did and although I knew no one I was so happy to be there and the other gals were so nice and accommodating to me

Thanks for the input, everyone! I mostly didn't want her to feel weird without knowing anyone but put her on my invite list. My friends are a pretty welcoming bunch so hopefully everyone has fun