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Elena
Dedicated August 2020

Inviting "plus ones"

Elena, on September 25, 2019 at 2:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 20
How do you feel about "plus ones" when you have a limited guest capacity for a venue Smiley atonished

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Latest activity by Elena, on September 26, 2019 at 3:00 PM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    Plus ones for guests who are truly single at the time invitations go out are not necessary. All significant others should be invited by name.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    We only did blank "plus ones" for single wedding party members. Other than that, no single people got "plus ones". But we did invite everyone's significant others (relationship, engaged, married, etc.) and kids. We didn't invite them as "plus one" or "guests", we just invited them by their names. I would for sure include any guest's significant others.

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  • Elena
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    Hi Kelly! Thanks for your response. I agree completely! Thank you! Smiley smile

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  • Elena
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    Thank you! Smiley smile Yes that makes sense. I appreciate you taking the time to answer.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    I gave plus ones to people I felt needed it such as those who won't know anyone there !
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  • Elena
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    Thanks Melle! That sounds like a good rule of thumb! Smiley smile

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    We actually only have a couple of guests (FH's friends) who are single. It won't affect our budget really for a couple of extra people, so we're going to offer these guys a plus one, if they want it. Everyone else has some kind of partner (spouse, gf/bf) that we will invite by name.

    But if it strains your budget too much, you don't have to give plus ones.

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  • Elena
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    Thank you for commenting! I appreciate the advice Smiley smile

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  • KandiKrix
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    Since you're dealing with limited space, I think it's ok to be more selective with your plus ones. We gave everyone in our wedding party a plus one (although some may not even take a plus one), all family members in a serious relationship are getting a plus one for that person, and any single people that will not know anyone else attending the wedding, which is just a small amount.

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  • Elena
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    Thank you so much! I am certainly trying to be selective while also trying to be respectful towards guests feelings and needs regarding bringing a date. I appreciate the advice a lot!

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    We are having plus ones for all out single guests for two reasons. First, the five or six extra people are not going to make or break our budget. And secondly, we are older so it’s not like we have 22 year old cousins trying to bring a random date they met at a bar the week before.
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  • Elena
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    This actually brings up a great point! My future husbands cousin recently started dating someone 2 weeks ago and has been hinting they would like a plus one. With the wedding 11 months away I feel I shouldn't be obligated to give them a plus one as of now. But I am not sure if that is harsh on my part

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
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    Since your wedding is still eleven months out, I would see if that cousin is still in a relationship closer to the wedding. Invitations generally don't go out until 8-6 weeks prior to the wedding. If he is still in a relationship, then I think you should allow him to bring his significant other. You should definitely invite significant others of your guests. Plus ones are truly only for people that are single then it is up to you. We gave plus ones to everyone, but for my great uncle for hasn't been in a relationship in over 25+ years, my uncle whose long term girlfriend passed away approximately 9 months prior to the wedding, and my husband's two cousins who are single and recovering addicts and we didn't want them bringing someone that might cause problems. The one cousin didn't attend because he has no money and his father refused to pay for his hotel room. The father then decided to be a no show at our wedding because his son couldn't attend. We had a couple people come alone even though they were given a plus one, but that was their decision. We wanted all of our guests to enjoy themselves which meant allowing people to bring dates if they were single.

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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
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    Plus ones are optional, i would only make sure married couples are able to bring their spouse.
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
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    I think if you're limited on space, it's OK to limit it to long-term couples (maybe together for a year or more). There's never an obligation to give plus-ones to single people.
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  • Elena
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    Thank you for your advice and sharing a personal experience! Smiley smile

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  • Elena
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    I agree! Thank you Smiley smile

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  • Elena
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    Thank you! That sounds like a good idea Smiley smile

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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    We are doing plus ones for married/engaged couples and anyone who is in a serious relationship. Other than that, no plus ones. Our budget just doesn't allow for that many people.

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  • Elena
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    Thank you for your comment Melissa

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