inviting people who don't get along?

Assigned seats We have a few people who would probably rather not sit with each other, so I was going to do resevered seating (it isn't the norm here-at all). You could do reserved tables for family, and sit them at seperate tables.

Grr... I have no patience for anyone who acts like this. I get it there are strife between the two of them, but she should act like an adult and accept the fact the day is for her son (your soon to be fiance) and you and THATS IT! She can have all the parties she wants and not invite granny. She should want to be there for her son because she is there to support HIM. If she did really give me an ultimatum (and if it was up to me), I'd still invite them both and say, "We love you. You decide." Good luck!

Have a wedding invite both, let them know the other has been invited and that if they choose to come they wont be seated together.

Let the more immature one decide not to come to her own son/grandson's wedding. Their loss if they are that big of idiots.

H's parents are divorced (he's 40, they divorced when he was 12) and H's mom went up to the photographer during pictures in the church and said "Don't put me next to that bitch" (meaning H's stepmom, her ex-husband of TWENTY EIGHT YEARS' wife.)

People are absolutely ridiculous for how long they hold grudges.

I agree with MrsSmith. Invite both, before the invites are sent out let them know what is going on and the rest is up to them.

It is a $hitty situation to deal with but if it means missing her own sons wedding, maybe his mom will come around.

Ha! I am in a similar situation and my friend was too ...

He could tell mom and grandma that it is his wedding day and he loves both. he wants both of them there and ask them to put their personal differences aside for just one day. And then assigned seating.

Having this very same issue myself.
My relationship w/my mother & her side of the family has been estranged for many yrs., so I'm really considering not inviting any of them. I'm certain there will be some kind of drama w/them b/c they're dysfunctional & can't even get along w/eachother for a simple family event. That's how bad it is in a nutshell. Good luck to you w/your choice though. I hope it all goes over smoothly one way or another.

Thank you so much everyone! My mom and I watch the wedding shows and we always see the family members trying to control the brides decisions, I don't get how people can be like that when it isn't about them! Like my family would pay for everything so i don't want anyone to ruin anything. I'm sick of dealing with their teenage attitudes.

This is an issue that even DJs like to be informed of as to avoid doing anything that could inflame a situation between people that don't get along.

The thing I would recommend is just just be very open with your feelings to each person. Explain how it makes you feel presently, and how it would make you feel during the ceremony/reception if something was to escalate. As silly as it might seem, sometimes writing an email or letter to even people we see allows us to express ourselves without interuption to what we're trying to express.