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Inviting people who are divorced.

Goby, on February 12, 2016 at 4:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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The FH and I have the two people who were are friends with. They use to be married and had a very very ugly divorce. We use to brunch with this couple twice a month. The guy is a distant relative of mine. We are still in touch with both of them. she has since remarried and now has an adorable baby boy. I want to invite both of them to my wedding, but I would be so upset if the ex or his family treated her and her husband bad. I don't think I am going to invite his family, just him.

my question is, is there a proper way of going about this situation? should I talk to both of them about it?

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OGMary · on February 12, 2016 at 4:53 PM
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It sounds like time has elapsed since their divorce, so hopefully they can be adults about it. I'm sure there will be people that they can mingle with so they don't have to talk to each other if they don't want to. Just don't seat them next to each other, which I'm sure you already took into consideration.
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Michelle · on February 12, 2016 at 5:01 PM
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You need to invite his wife. Whether you're including kids or not is another story entirely, but if you are inviting him, it cannot be just him. No heads up required and you should give a very nonchalant answer if either of them ask about it. People move on with their lives, they might not give it a second thought.

ETA. I read too fast sometimes.
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Goby · on February 12, 2016 at 5:16 PM
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They've only been divorced for a year and a half. Rumors were that they were both cheating and that he was abusive, i don't know what is true. we are crazy super against abuse but both sides of the divorce was quite vicious so the FH and I remained neutral. She remarried only a few months after the divorce with an old high school flame. He is not remarried and is not dating. i personally think he's super depressed, he's really let go since before the divorce. thank you, I am going to proceed with inviting both of them.
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