Inviting only family’s kids to the wedding - appropriate?

Hi everyone - the age old debate! Our wedding is 12/18/21 and I’m in the process of fine tuning some details. As far as kids at the wedding goes, the way I see it is 1) our families have kids and 2) our friends have kids. My fiancé and I even have a two year old son who will of course be at the wedding. I cannot get away with saying No kids allowed. For instance, my uncle from out of state is flying in with his family which includes my 7 year old cousin. If I say no kids at the wedding, my uncle will get offended, and I want my 7 year old cousin there. My fiancé’s family is full of kids (nieces and nephews mainly). Is it fair to list in the FAQ section on our wedding website that we request children of only family members at our wedding? I don’t want to offend or hurt anyone’s feelings but asking that no kids come is a battle that I will lose. But I also don’t want to invite every single one of my friends kids since our catering bill is already outrageous.


I’m pulling my hair out over this!! Any advice??