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Inviting only family’s kids to the wedding - appropriate?

Haley, on August 18, 2021 at 7:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
Hi everyone - the age old debate! Our wedding is 12/18/21 and I’m in the process of fine tuning some details. As far as kids at the wedding goes, the way I see it is 1) our families have kids and 2) our friends have kids. My fiancé and I even have a two year old son who will of course be at the wedding. I cannot get away with saying No kids allowed. For instance, my uncle from out of state is flying in with his family which includes my 7 year old cousin. If I say no kids at the wedding, my uncle will get offended, and I want my 7 year old cousin there. My fiancé’s family is full of kids (nieces and nephews mainly). Is it fair to list in the FAQ section on our wedding website that we request children of only family members at our wedding? I don’t want to offend or hurt anyone’s feelings but asking that no kids come is a battle that I will lose. But I also don’t want to invite every single one of my friends kids since our catering bill is already outrageous.

I’m pulling my hair out over this!! Any advice??


Latest activity by Yasmine, on August 19, 2021 at 12:30 PM
  • AJ
    Super October 2022
    AJ ·
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    A lot of people say it’s all or nothing with kids, and you shouldn’t pick and choose. Do what you gotta honestly. People will be upset but they’ll get over it. The only kids we are having at our wedding is my FH’s three nieces and one nephew but they will be flower girls and ring bearer. We are putting on our details card that only children part of the wedding party will be present. You could put something like due to limited space we are only able to accommodate children of family members. If people don’t like it then they don’t have to come.
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  • Candace
    Devoted March 2022
    Candace ·
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    I think you invite kids the way you invite adults. If you know them and love them enough to know their names and you would like them there, then list them on the invitation RSVP. If you only know them as your friends' kids and they don't necessarily know you, then don't invite them. On the website, say "refer to your invitation" for who is invited or something like that.
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  • Sydney
    Dedicated October 2021
    Sydney ·
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    Yes you are totally fine to say family’s kids only. And you don’t have to put it on your website. Just be explicit on the invite who is invited. I invited only my nieces and nephews and told my friends they couldn’t bring their kid of they asked. I don’t think anyone has been upset about this.
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  • Maddie
    Devoted February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    We are doing this as well. And my FH has a lot of friends with kids. Luckily the general consensus with them is they don't want their kids there anyway because they want to party.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I don't see a problem with it, if a friend told me I couldn't bring my kids I wouldn't be offended at all. Honestly, I probably wouldn't be taking them to a wedding anyways unless it was a close family member or friend.

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