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Master October 2011

Inviting my sister's ex to the wedding

Nik_McAwesomepants, on August 10, 2010 at 1:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Okay so my sister and MOH is about 2 1/2 years older than me and dated this guy when I was in Jr. High (HS for her) for like 5 years. I literally knew him since I was like 13 until I went off to college. I've always considered him my big brother and he always called me his big sister. Well when I was a sophomore in college, he and my sister broke up. She now dates my FH's friend and has basically been forbidden to have contact with her ex. Her ex and I have stayed in contact on and off since they broke up but now that I'm planning my wedding, I kind of want him there. I spoke to my sister about it and she's worried about the drama that may happen since her current bf has a pretty bad temper and is really jealous. A part of me feels like it's MY day but I don't want people, including my sister, to be uncomfortable. What should I do??

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Latest activity by Nik_McAwesomepants, on August 10, 2010 at 2:13 PM

Master August 2011
Meghan · on August 10, 2010 at 2:01 PM
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Sorry hon- but your sister comes first. Sadly, this isn't about her- it's about her current BF.
HE needs to understand that she has dated men in the past. I'd have FH talk to him about this- because while this man happens to be your sister's ex (with no hard feelings), he is still important to you in your life.
Frankly, your sister's BF needs to grow up... maybe he'll agree to not attend- oh, wait- that would be bad.
But I bet her ex would understand why he isn't invited...
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Analy aka T-waffle · on August 10, 2010 at 2:02 PM
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If you have made your sister your MOH, you owe it to her to see that she is comforable with the situation. It sounds like you are not close to this guy, just that you keep in touch. I think you need to respect her and her new relationship and their wishes and not invite this person. Send him an announcement, and maybe meet up after the wedding.
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MelKel · on August 10, 2010 at 2:03 PM
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I wouldn't invite him. It will cause problems and you don't want drama on your wedding day.
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Danielle · on August 10, 2010 at 2:05 PM
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I actually would invite him, theres going to be so many people there, i doubt there will be any interaction, and if there is, hopefully they are all adults and can handle it...
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Master October 2011
Nik_McAwesomepants · on August 10, 2010 at 2:13 PM
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@Analy we were very very close when I lived at home but grew a part slightly while I was away at college. My sister has expressed that it would be weird to have her ex and current bf in the same place together but understands why I would want him there. I offered a compromise of him coming to the ceremony but not the reception. Do you think that's a reasonable accommodation? I just feel really bad not inviting him. **shrug** I dunno....
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