Inviting my Niece

If you don't want to invite the stepdad, don't send an invite to that address. Assuming that your niece sees her father (your brother) sometimes, I would invite her (and all the children really) with her father.

Since you of course would invite the step father as the mother's partner, why not include the niece's name on their invite?

Edit: Wait, is the mom divorced from her second husband?

Your niece, I'm going to call her Kathy to make this less confusing.

@Jeanne, I don't think Kathy's mother lives with Kathy's step-father. Kathy lives with her step-father, but not her biological father (OP's brother) or her mother.

@Frugal, that's what I was thinking of doing, I just wasn't sure if I should include it on the father's invite or the mother's.

@Jeanne, I'm sorry for not clarifying this in the OP - the step-father would not be invited because he and the mother are divorced. They no longer live together and are not partners.

ETA: Yes, @Frugal, exactly. And Kathy is a good name. LOL!

Wait, Kathy's mother is invited too?

If you are not inviting her step dad, I would say the best thing to do would be to include her on either your brother's invite or her mother's invite. If she spends more time with her mom, I would include her on her mother's invite, if she spends more time with your brother then I would include her on his invite.

Does she spend time at either her mother's house or your brother's house? If yes, an option might be for her to spend the night before and the night of the wedding at either of their houses and then travel with them?

Yes, Kathy's mother is invited. She's been a very close family friend since before I was born.

What Stephanie said

That makes waaaaaaaay more sense. I would include her name on the invite that is going to the parent (that is invited) she spends the most time with.

Does your brother have visitation with his daughter? If so, I would include her on his invitation, and have him work out the logistics with his daughter's stepfather.

Thank you, ladies! You've definitely helped confirm my thoughts - Kathy's name will go on my brother's invite, since she visits him most often (her mom lives in New Mexico!).

I hope you actually put "Kathy". Everyone will be so confused. lol

Lmao!! That would be hysterical for me, but my family would probably think me the weirdest aunt ever.

Wait, Kathy doesn't live with either of her bio parents?

No, she doesn't. She doesn't live with my brother because he's got such a big family living in one small house (him, his fiance, two teenage girls, a teenage boy, and a younger boy). I'm actually not entirely sure why she doesn't live with her mother - I had assumed it was because she wanted to stay on the east coast when her mom moved out west.

Fair enough. What PPs said, include her in your brother's invite. He can figure out the logistics.

If either parent has visitation with your niece then she should be included on one of their invites. They would get with the step-father and make the arrangements.