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Inviting most of my cousins...except for one.

Alli, on February 18, 2023 at 4:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3
So we're getting our guest list together and close to our goal of 80 total. We're inviting close family and friends which includes some aunts, uncles, and cousins however not all are going to be invited (already spoke to them and they're more than understanding, doing a backyard reunion to make up for it). My uncles and cousins on my dad's side are all invited as I'm very close with all of them and it's not a ton of people. One cousin however is a rather difficult person. Her brother will be invited but she has done some quite shady things. Called me every name in the book for not going to her wedding (even after explaining I was in college and had finals, nor could I afford to go out of state of it) she also tried fooling around with my mom's ex husband (step dad) while they were still together. She's overall really not well liked in my family, even by her brother. But I feel guilty for inviting her dad, her brother, but not her. Should I include her on the guest list? She likely wouldn't even come, but I don't want to cause drama by specifically not inviting her.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on February 22, 2023 at 7:31 PM
  • Taylor
    VIP October 2022
    Taylor ·
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    I personally wouldn’t invite this person but that’s just me. I invited all of my aunts & uncles except one because I don’t know him well
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    Savvy May 2024
    Alli ·
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    Yeah talking to my fiance about it more I'm thinking I shouldn't invite this person. It'll be drama if I invite her and drama if I do, so I might as well enjoy my day with out her
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    This is more common than people realize and it’s not offensive or impolite. There are certain family dynamics where not inviting a certain person is the best thing to do. For example, if someone is violent, criminal, abusive, homophobic, dangerous alcoholic, etc then they should not be invited at all for the safety of everyone attending. If there is no relationship to begin with, it makes no sense at all to invite anyone out of obligation just because they share blood relations.


    My parents and I attended a cousin’s wedding when I was a kid and the bride’s brother whom she did not have a relationship with from the getgo was a violent alcoholic. It was decided that he would not be invited and everyone understood and no one asked where he was.
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