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Inviting guests at a later date than others. Is this okay?

Felicity, on December 7, 2020 at 6:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17
Hi Everyone,

I postponed my wedding this past year (was supposed to be September and now it will be June 2021).
I was wondering if it is okay to invite people who weren't originally invited. I didn't give them a save the date since I had sent them out much earlier this year (they have become better friends/acquaintances since time has passed).Advice below!

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Latest activity by Judith, on December 8, 2020 at 6:34 PM
  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I say go for it & invite them! We didn't send every single person that will be invited to our big wedding a Save the date.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    I would definitely wait until the time comes closer to your wedding, since there may be covid restrictions on the number of guests you can invite. But, if you have the room and ability to accommodate them then, I would invite them Smiley smile
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I agree with Chrysta. I would make sure you are allowed to host the number of people that you plan on inviting. If so, then I would invite them.

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  • Theadra
    Devoted June 2021
    Theadra ·
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    I was told you can always invite guests no matter how far out your wedding is. As long as you can pay for them of course lol

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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    As in A and B lists? Do everything in your power to avoid that as many find it rude. Pick whomever your must-have list is to send invites to. Whomever would make your B list, send announcements after the wedding. That way you avoid hurt feelings that might not be repaired.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    That’s B-listing and it’s extremely rude. No one wants to be a runner up because your more important guests can’t come.
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    Devoted June 2021
    Felicity ·
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    That's not at all what it is. If you read my post you would realize that. I postponed my wedding and the people I would like to invite I had just met last summer and they have become good acquaintances. I didn't know them before I sent out save the dates. It has nothing to do with other guests not being able to come.
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    Devoted June 2021
    Felicity ·
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    No thats not what it is. I sent out save the date beginning of the year and had met these people in the summer and since then they have become good acquaintances.
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    Devoted June 2021
    Felicity ·
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    Thank you!!
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  • F
    Devoted June 2021
    Felicity ·
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    Great advice!! I didn't even think about that!
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    Felicity ·
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    Thanks for the great advice!!
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    Devoted June 2021
    Felicity ·
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    Thank you!!Smiley smile
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    Super April 2021
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    I'm inviting a few extra people - one I couldn't get an address for last time as hard as I tried, another person I hadn't planned to invite but have since decided to. I don't think that's an issue at all!
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    If they are your bff's, then invite them. If they are just acquaintances and not close friends you regularly spend time with, send announcements afterward.



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    I interpreted this as she didn't know these people when she first sent the save the dates, but has become close with them in the time since. Had she been close with them when she originally sent the invites, she would have.

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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    As others above have said, ‘B-listing’ is always considered rude and to be in poor taste. On the other hand, if you happen to just meet people before the wedding and decide to invite them, of course it’s ok! Lol it is not rude to invite people later who you didn’t even know at the time of sending original invites/save the dates 😊

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    Judith ·
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    Yes, it is fine. It is always fine to send Saves only to the people you think need advance notice for a specific reason. Then send invitations to the whole group. And when you increase the size space as you reschedule, new invitations are fine. Cutting people you sent Saves before, then adding people, would not be okay. Adding, fine. Generally you don't want people to feel you have settled for their company, since folks you care about more and sent invitations to said no.
    But on the case of people you dod mot know when first planning, whom you now have a relationship with, they can be added at any time to the wedding and reception
    And if it was getting close to the date, only 2-4 weeks away, it has always been fine to invite them in person, or invite them over the phone. This is better than getting a mailed one very late.
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