Inviting family that you never speak to?

Do not. You are hosting your wedding not a family reunion.

I invited family I haven't spoken to in a while just because my parents asked me to. I felt really weird sending them one, but I did it for my parents.

I'm feeling pressured to invite FH family I've never even met.. I hate that idea!! But whatever.

I invited family that I rarely speak to, but still feel a good connection to. I DID NOT invite all of my family, as there's some that we really never speak to & it would be silly to invite them. In terms of guest list, there's a few etiquette rules, but if you don't feel like inviting these family members, don't! No need to feel pressured by them, especially if you don't speak to them anymore anyways.

I think if you're paying it's okay to put your foot down. I'm sorry they put you in such an awkward position. I would just say that you had limited space and couldn't invite everyone you wanted to.

I invited family that I don't talk to for my mom's sake. I NEVER talk to anyone on her side of the family. Like ever... But I invited a tables worth of people so she would have people to sit with.

But if you don't want to invite someone, you shouldn't feel obligated too!

Inviting those kind of people never crossed my mind honestly

My FH and I are paying for 100% of our wedding, so we controlled the guest list and no one has questioned us yet.

Who's hosting?

If you're paying for it, nope.

I did not invite anyone I haven't spoke to in years.

I really don't think it matters who is paying. It's your wedding so what you want

I have 4 uncles on my dad's side, 2 of which we haven't heard from since my dad passed 8 years ago and we are not inviting them to the wedding. Thankfully, the aunts and uncles we did invite didn't say anything but they don't talk to those uncles much anyway.

I would stick to your plan and not invite them, you can always blame it on budget and venue constraints.

I agree to a certain extent that "its your wedding, do what you want" but hosting a wedding as a family, there needs to be boundaries that are agreed upon.

My mom has 10 siblings, all of whom are married and had kids. I have 48 first cousins. Some of the cousins I've never met, a ton of others I haven't spoken to in more than a decade. I only invited the people who I actually have a relationship with: 10 aunts/uncles and 4 first cousins.

No my extended family that lives close is terrible and I love my extended family that lives far away so i didn't invite any of them and I'm planning on taking a trip to visit the extended family after the wedding and celebrate with them.

I'm of the mindset that you invite in groups, so either all your aunts and uncles or none. I think it is rude to pick and choose based on your relationship. But I'm probably old school in this.

You don't have to invite anyone that you don't want to. Blame it on the budget or venue if they push.

My sister invited my uncle/aunt to her wedding and they didn't even have the courtesy to RSVP - the only invited guests that required a follow-up. We had a much smaller venue and only invited half as many guests. Or course, we didn't waste an invitation on them. Hubby didn't invite an uncle/aunt, on his side either. His parents don't even have his address, so why bother?

My parents are paying for most of the wedding and my dad wants me to invite cousins on his side that I haven't seen or spoken to in 10 years at least. He says they not going to come anyway so I don't really get why I have to invite them, but whatever. If it makes him happy I'll spend a few dollars to send them an invitation. If they RSVP yes I'll honestly be shocked.

^^same, except my mom! She wants me to invite at least 8 people I haven't talked to since I was a kid. But she's helping to pay so I suppose I'll send an invite and hope they don't show. Sigh.