Inviting ex to wedding?

Because there is a child involved, I would say yes. Invite her, she can always decline. I'm going to have a MIL vs STEP MIL feud at my wedding that is going to be a challenge as well.. maybe try and talk to someone close to you [bridal party?] that can keep an eye on her day off and make sure there is no drama?

I'm inviting my fh's ex wife and her husband, but they are on relatively good terms. I would leave the decision to my FH though

We didn’t invite my ex and his girlfriend to our wedding even though my daughter I share with him was in it and they aren’t inviting us to theirs so I don’t think it’s necessary.

Personally, I would invite her - she will probably decline. But it's not rude to not invite her even if the daughter is in the wedding.

I would not. If they are not on good terms there is no reason to include her. I would just make sure to not inconvenience her in any way regarding the wedding (can you pick daughter up at midnight at the venue? for example)

I’m not understanding why she has to be invited. It’s his child also..& if he doesn’t care for her that’s just another reason not to.

In past relationships I worked very hard to have a good relationship with ex's with children. Woman up! You've opened your heart to this child and her mother is the most important woman in her world.

Unfortunately I have a bad relationship with my ex husband. I most certainly would not invite him to my wedding (and didn't). We have a child together but I have custody so it was a foregone conclusion.

No you should not invite her. I was not invited to my ex's wedding and no way in hell would he be invited to mine, despite our child together.

Nope. You are under no obligation to invite her.

I personally would not her if they’re not on great terms.

The "not on good terms" statement is where I say, do not invite.

Emotions aside, there is no need. Perhaps if his daughter was younger and needed minding, I could need for the mom to be nearby. However, a 10 yr old does not. She is old enough to attend without the mom escort.

If you're not on good terms, I would say don't invite. We decided to not invite my fiance's ex but we also weren't invited to theirs either. Despite sharing my step daughter

I dont think it will improve your day in any way to have her there ....I say nay...

If you are not on good terms then don’t invite her! You’re not obligated to invite her!

I would leave it up to your FH. My neice is a junior bridesmaid and I was actually wondering if I should invite her dad and family, since I've known them so long and everything. Discussed with my sister, who is also a bridesmaid, they've been broken up since before my neice was born, how well they get along depends on the day but overall pretty well considering they were teenagers. We decided if I invited them I'd have to invite her fiancé's family and it wasn't necessary to invite either. So I don't think you have to invite her mom just because she's a bridesmaid. Is your FH going to have parents or siblings there she is close with that she can hang out with after the ceremony? Are you worried she will be bored and need someone to hang out with since you guys will be the center of attention? My neice is 11 and will be 12 but I feel like 10 is the part of the bored years, so annoying when they say it every 3 seconds lol.

Thanks everyone - the mom and I are on alright terms, it is just the relationship between my FH and her is very bad. He personally doesn’t want her there at all. Especially since she has a history of being very nasty. I do wish the whole situation was friendlier, it would definitely make things easier!

View Quoted Comment She and I have a cordial relationship, it’s the two of them that don’t. He doesn’t want her there, but I don’t want anyone’s feelings hurt. Like many have said, she would probably decline anyway.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Charrell. Personally even if we were on good terms I wouldn't. This is a new chapter in my life and I don't want my ex in the midst of that. We can continue to be cordial without him at my wedding. That is just me.